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In the past i dated a girl for a year and a half. We were in love and everything was beyond perfect. I ended things because i was leaving for my 2nd year of college (we made it through my first with no issues). We have been broken up for a year now, and during the entire year i was still madly in love with her even thought i ended things.
We didn't speak for a year, then this summer we spoke for the first time. She ended up busting into tears from emotion while talking to a friend later that night. She really loved me and i really loved her.
Coming to present day, we both work in the same company. We see each other usually about once a week and have small talk. I feel like there is something.
However, just a month ago she began dating a new guy. I was too dumb to make another move before she had began dating this guy. And i have no idea how she feels anymore on the matter.
I want to confront her and see if she would like to go out sometime, not to try and ruin her new relationship but to explain how i feel.
I am not sure what to do. I truly feel like something is still there.
I guess in the end i know i messed up in the past. I want to have a life with her. My question is, do i try for it when she has a new other? or should i just stay away.
In the past i dated a girl for a year and a half. We were in love and everything was beyond perfect. I ended things because i was leaving for my 2nd year of college (we made it through my first with no issues). We have been broken up for a year now, and during the entire year i was still madly in love with her even thought i ended things.
We didn't speak for a year, then this summer we spoke for the first time. She ended up busting into tears from emotion while talking to a friend later that night. She really loved me and i really loved her.
Coming to present day, we both work in the same company. We see each other usually about once a week and have small talk. I feel like there is something.
However, just a month ago she began dating a new guy. I was too dumb to make another move before she had began dating this guy. And i have no idea how she feels anymore on the matter.
I want to confront her and see if she would like to go out sometime, not to try and ruin her new relationship but to explain how i feel.
I am not sure what to do. I truly feel like something is still there.
I guess in the end i know i messed up in the past. I want to have a life with her. My question is, do i try for it when she has a new other? or should i just stay away.
You're already not going out with her, so it wouldn't hurt to tell her how you feel.
It will be difficult, though, to explain WHY you ended things when they were "beyond perfect."
I was being full of myself when i ended things. I have regretted it for a year now. I dont want the yo-yo relationship, i want to stick with it. I can see myself marrying this girl, i have feelings i have never felt before.
But again she has someone new. And i dont want to be that guy to barge saying how i feel towards her.
I was being full of myself when i ended things. I have regretted it for a year now. I dont want the yo-yo relationship, i want to stick with it. I can see myself marrying this girl, i have feelings i have never felt before.
But again she has someone new. And i dont want to be that guy to barge saying how i feel towards her.
She doesn't "have someone new". She's just been dating a new guy for a few weeks. Unless she's told you she thinks she's in love with him, they're just dating. She can date you, too; there's no rule against that, unless they've already decided to be exclusive (which would be a bit soon, after just a few weeks of dating==doubtful it's at that stage yet).
Why didn't you say anything last summer, after you found out she burst into tears after seeing you again? Dumb! You're kicking yourself now, right?
Well, now's the time to confess to her, before anymore time goes by, and they decide to be exclusive (or...not. You never know; the dateship might not work out). Speak now, or forever hold your peace. That's where this is at, OP. It's now or never. And be sure to tell her you've been kicking yourself ever since, for having broken up with her in the first place.
Good luck!
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 12-28-2015 at 07:17 PM..
You might as well take the plunge. You have everything to gain & nothing to lose!
A few months back i was told she was in tears after we talked once from emotion. I feel i should slowly work my way into it. I really dont want to just jump right into her when she is in a relationship at the current time. The feelings are extremely strong. Id like for things to be in my favor, but i also want whats the best for her.
A few months back i was told she was in tears after we talked once from emotion. I feel i should slowly work my way into it. I really dont want to just jump right into her when she is in a relationship at the current time. The feelings are extremely strong. Id like for things to be in my favor, but i also want whats the best for her.
How do you know she's in a relationship? Where are you getting your information? "Work into it slowly"? Dude, you've already screwed up twice, the second time by not making a move at all. The slower you move now, the greater the chance that they'll actually be in a relationship, be exclusive, and the window of opportunity will close. You could see her for coffee, and let her know how you feel, but tell her if she's really into her new guy, you'll respect that, because you want what's best for her.
But it's your life. Throw away your last chance, if you want to. You seem to be cool with throwing opportunity down the drain at every turn, anyway. When it comes to this girl, at least.
How do you know she's in a relationship? Where are you getting your information? "Work into it slowly"? Dude, you've already screwed up twice, the second time by not making a move at all. The slower you move now, the greater the chance that they'll actually be in a relationship, be exclusive, and the window of opportunity will close.
But it's your life. Throw away your last chance, if you want to. You seem to be cool with throwing opportunity down the drain at every turn, anyway. When it comes to this girl, at least.
You make a very good point. I was told by another party, as well as seeing it on social media that she was in a relationship. Its been up for about a month. You made a great point though. I need to man up and go for it. Thank you very much!
A few months back i was told she was in tears after we talked once from emotion. I feel i should slowly work my way into it. I really dont want to just jump right into her when she is in a relationship at the current time. The feelings are extremely strong. Id like for things to be in my favor, but i also want whats the best for her.
There is your answer but keep in mind while you are slowly working your way to her the other guy is running full force and has her down the lane before you have taken 10 steps.
Your life, make a decision about your life all by yourself then be man enough to stand up to that decision be it good, bad or indifferent.
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