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You just had a New Year's Eve date. See, this is why some people here don't believe much of anything you say.
I did but it didn't work out. If she meant serious relationship, then yes I haven't had one in 6 months. People on here not believing what I say is something I don't lose sleep over. FYI, if I did get a girlfriend nobody on here would know.
I did but it didn't work out. If she meant serious relationship, then yes I haven't had one in 6 months. People on here not believing what I say is something I don't lose sleep over.
I did but it didn't work out. If she meant serious relationship, then yes I haven't had one in 6 months. People on here not believing what I say is something I don't lose sleep over. FYI, if I did get a girlfriend nobody on here would know.
I remember you mentioned her all excited mate, sorry to hear I didn't work out better luck next time
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
What about, just for the heck of it, talking to women who approach you, anyway? Just to see what they're about, enjoy a conversation with someone (who knows, one or two might turn out to be really interesting), pass the time, and be polite? Just as an experiment? It doesn't mean you have to spend an evening with them or even much of your time at all, but 20 minutes of being sociable wouldn't hurt, unless some turn out to be miserably boring. I know you said you have to find something physically attractive about a woman to be into her, but I'm just saying, have some chit-chat (what else do you have to do with your time?), to see if something interesting turns up in the conversation. No obligations, when you're done, just say, "It's been nice talking to you, maybe I'll see you around', and move on. You never know, you might get a good business contact out of it, or you may discover an interesting person.
Just a thought. Just a wild, crazy thought.
I've been open to that. The thing is that once I've rejected these women, they haven't really been open to being just friends.
Yeah the few women in 35 years that have showed any interest in me I haven't been physically attracted to at all..
I probably am not attractive enough to get a women I'm physically attracted to but if rather be alone my whol life then try to force myself to be with a women I have no attraction to ..
You are scared of a relationship. If you approach a woman, you already have rejection in your head. So you will be rejected either because YOU already send out that vibe OR you are going for women above your level. And then afterwards you complain about it. That feels safe and familiar to you because it has happened several times.
A woman who approaches YOU, obviously would NOT reject you. This scares you and you don't know what to do other than reject her. Because you are scared to get in a relationship, it feels unfamiliar, and you wonder what is wrong with her that she wants you.
I think I'll print out a fake psychologist certificate now.
I totally agree with you Fake Doctor oh-eve. There is a significant fear of intimacy here. He is not actually scared of rejection, but acceptance. He has set these strict rules: No marriage. No kids. Because both of those situations would require him to commit to exposing and revealing himself completely to others (and he doesn't like what he thinks they will see.)
Further, he will be vulnerable to loving someone deeply--a lifetime partner, a child--who might leave, change or die. Scary.
Trust me a defeatist attitude won't do anyone any good, only a positive one will suffice
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