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As you all know my husband has an issue with my weight and our sex life has suffered. Several months ago I decided to try a smoothie diet and it worked ok. I lost about 10 lbs. I asked my husband at that time did he want to do it with me and he said no. A few months later I did the smoothie diet again and lost more weight. Although I didn't really change my eating habits so the weight sort of came back. Well, today y husband and I were about to go shopping and he made a list. While in the store he bought a lot of bananas, frozen fruit, coconut milk, kale, ground flak seeds, and a few other things. I assumed he was buying them for me. Low and behold when we got home he put the fruit and things away and I asked him if he was making us a smoothie. He looked at me and said, "no, that was for me." At that point I became very upset. I just assumed that he was buying those items for us when all the while he was only buying them for himself. Last year when I asked him to do the smoothie diet with me he declined. Now all of a sudden he wants to do it. He didn't understand why I was angry. He looked at me and said, "when did WE have the discussion that I was going to buy stuff for US to get back on the smoothie diet?" He then said that when I bought all my stuff months ago not one time did he make a smoothie for himself. So why would I assume that because he was buying this stuff was it for the both of us. Am I wrong to think that he wasn't thinking about me and only about himself. He said that he'd like to begin loosing some weight. Was I wrong to get mad?
Well he certainly appears to be not the most thoughtful person
But what I don't understand is why does everything evolves around him..... " he bought this , he wants that, he he he " etc? Surely you should make your own choices/ decisions? I'm sure at the least that will save you from arguing and getting mad over trivial things .
You guys just don't understand. I want us to be a couple but he feels that couples don't need to do everything together. I went on my diet and he was fine with that but I asked him if he wanted to do it with me. Now that he's starting his I thought he was doing it for us and not just him. What kind of man only thinks about himself?
The most I will say is your issues come from feeling you don't feel heard. If that's the case start speaking up and stop assuming so much from other people
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