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Funny thing JerZ, not one woman has commented on that. They just want to look at the fact that he bought something only for him and wasn't considerate enough to just say, "yes, baby, I bought this for my diet but you can have some too."
Having read the OPs complaints about her hubby before, I side completely with the husband in every thread she has started so far.
They just want to look at the fact that he bought something only for him and wasn't considerate enough to just say, "yes, baby, I bought this for my diet but you can have some too."
I think she managed to kill all the sweet baby talk already...
Their communication skill sucks, and so her expectations. When you look at all the threads she posted, you will see nothing but my husband did this, my husband did that...
Funny thing JerZ, not one woman has commented on that. They just want to look at the fact that he bought something only for him and wasn't considerate enough to just say, "yes, baby, I bought this for my diet but you can have some too."
What's wrong with buying and paying for your own food? They went shopping and it was his pay week so of course he paid for his own food. He wanted to do the smoothie diet so he bought his stuff. So, if you and your husband are out and he wants something do you just pay for it all the time? Hell, I would never take my wallet with me if I was dating you.
I do all the grocery shopping, and as I said, we have a joint account for that. We just shared some pita chips and hummus. What am I going to do, tell him he ate 58% of the hummus, so he owes 58% of the cost? If I want to deal with "your food" and "my food" I'll get a roommate. And yes, I buy him stuff out of my own pocket all the time. Food is shared in this house.
Having read the OPs complaints about her hubby before, I side completely with the husband in every thread she has started so far.
That's what I don't get. All of the OP's posts that I've seen end with people telling her that she is the one with a problem, yet she keeps coming back seeking different answers.
OP, if people who don't know your husband keep siding with him, then perhaps it's time you did some introspection. If he's not the problem, then that means....I'm sure you'll work it out.
I can't wrap my brain around how the OP's marriage operates. It seems strange for a husband and wife to be living in polar universes unable to communicate.
I meal plan every week and post the menu up on the fridge. I take my husband's likes and dislikes into account (we don't always eat the same things though) and I shop once per week according to what is on my list. No more, no less.
My husband is more impulsive and gives in to cravings and he will make special trips to the store to satisfy them. When he does, he will always ask me if there is anything I'd like. So, I guess it could be said that I do the basic shopping and he shops for the extras. Works for us!
It just seems odd and sad that the OP can't communicate with her husband about the most simple and basic things.
As you all know my husband has an issue with my weight and our sex life has suffered. Several months ago I decided to try a smoothie diet and it worked ok. I lost about 10 lbs. I asked my husband at that time did he want to do it with me and he said no. A few months later I did the smoothie diet again and lost more weight. Although I didn't really change my eating habits so the weight sort of came back. Well, today y husband and I were about to go shopping and he made a list. While in the store he bought a lot of bananas, frozen fruit, coconut milk, kale, ground flak seeds, and a few other things. I assumed he was buying them for me. Low and behold when we got home he put the fruit and things away and I asked him if he was making us a smoothie. He looked at me and said, "no, that was for me." At that point I became very upset. I just assumed that he was buying those items for us when all the while he was only buying them for himself. Last year when I asked him to do the smoothie diet with me he declined. Now all of a sudden he wants to do it. He didn't understand why I was angry. He looked at me and said, "when did WE have the discussion that I was going to buy stuff for US to get back on the smoothie diet?" He then said that when I bought all my stuff months ago not one time did he make a smoothie for himself. So why would I assume that because he was buying this stuff was it for the both of us. Am I wrong to think that he wasn't thinking about me and only about himself. He said that he'd like to begin loosing some weight. Was I wrong to get mad?
You assumed.
He doesnt understand why you are angry. NO ONE understand why you are angry.
And you wonder why he doesnt want to sleep with you??
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