do you admit to being shallow? in relationships...

[AlfredB1979]

Originally Posted by IntentionsRGood

Listen to your female intuition. There's a reason why he's divorced. Do you find insecure men to be sexy? What happens when the chemistry fades? Have you thought that far ahead? You've been married, so you know that initial rush of feelings will eventually fade. Then his insecurity will really become an issue later on.

Don't let your loneliness cause you to be desperate and lower your standards.

Who says she is lowering her standards? OP's ex-hubby hasn't dropped in to voice his wisdom, ya' know.

Maybe this guy is "insecure" around OP for whatever reason, but a different woman brings out the best in him and this isn't an issue. None of us know. If relationship dynamics were an exact science, then OLD would never have gotten off the ground because we'd know exactly who clicks with who.

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by californiacrow

I am not a shallow lady...but yes I know there has to be some sort of attraction....I am very attracted to him...but when he becomes insecure...I start to second guess....any thoughts?

Insecure? How insecure? If it is enough for you to second guess, i'd say you perhaps have a very legitimate concern.

No, you are not shallow.

For me, I am attracted to very handsome men - very tall, (over 6'), six pack, swimmer's body. I have a very specific physical type I like.

Many have called me shallow although I can care less how much money he makes,as long as he loves me, and is hot, that is all I need.

Different people look for different things. I only played safe in my life once, dated a professional man who is financially established, well loved by my friends and family. turned out it is a total disaster. I am always a goodie two shoes, but my secret desire is rather wild. Is it shallow? if it is, then so be it.

In my opinion, insecurity cannot be easily fixed with a deep conversation. If you have a second thought now, I don't think I can call that a good sign. every girl knows deep down what we are looking for in a man.

I've been told once, "you are looking for the same, financial stability, somebody who is kind and love you very much." Yeah, maybe, but i really want a reformed bad boy with a heart of gold. This is MY preference.

I wouldn't use shallow to describe you at all. Not even close.