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I'm a left brained engineer type and I don't want a left brained engineer type woman. I don't want a bubbly airhead, but I don't want someone too analytical.
I'm very left brained I score a hard and firm INTJ personality type. I'm not bragging, but I have the ability to be able to be funny and witty. I find that a lot of technical analytical people to be more on the dull side lacking in a sense of humor. I say this as a guy that's been in a technical industry for 23 plus yrs, not just dusting off the engineer stereotype, besides stereotypes exist for a reason.
I'll be sure to send all the female engineers your way.
I'm very left brained I score a hard and firm INTJ personality type. I'm not bragging, but I have the ability to be able to be funny and witty. I find that a lot of technical analytical people to be more on the dull side lacking in a sense of humor. I say this as a guy that's been in a technical industry for 23 plus yrs, not just dusting off the engineer stereotype, besides stereotypes exist for a reason.
I'll be sure to send all the female engineers your way.
Both of them?
I kid.
But, unless you consider yourself a unicorn of sorts, it stands to reason that there are other left-brainers out there who are also capable of being funny/witty, and going against the (admittedly, accurate) stereotype. Either way, I'll take all of them.
Regarding humor: Everybody likes it (you're rarely going to find someone that doesn't like to laugh), but the differences are in what we find funny. I love (and practice) dry humor, which is something more likely to be found among the aforementioned left-brainers than by more traditional humorists. I have my theories/reasoning on this that would take us way off-topic, but I'd hesitate to suggest that one type is more likely to HAVE humor than others....rather than one type is more likely to have a certain TYPE of humor than others (read: slapstick vs dry vs satirical vs anecdotal, etc.)
I'm of the opinion that those are are perceived as having a "good" sense of humor either a) practice a type of humor that more people are likely to enjoy, or b) enjoy more types of humor than the average person, or c) both.
I'm very left brained I score a hard and firm INTJ personality type. I'm not bragging, but I have the ability to be able to be funny and witty. I find that a lot of technical analytical people to be more on the dull side lacking in a sense of humor. I say this as a guy that's been in a technical industry for 23 plus yrs, not just dusting off the engineer stereotype, besides stereotypes exist for a reason.
I'll be sure to send all the female engineers your way.
How is it that everyone that takes this test is an INTJ? lol I sware I never see anyone say they are an ESTJ which is one of the more common ones. Oh well neverind me just an off topic thought.
How is it that everyone that takes this test is an INTJ? lol I sware I never see anyone say they are an ESTJ which is one of the more common ones. Oh well neverind me just an off topic thought.
Because it's an internet forum; a place more likely to be populated by that personality type.
If you were to ask a group of people at a social gathering (like bar, or party) to take the test on site, you'd see grossly different results.
I sometimes see this types of threads where a woman states how successful they are and they can't get dates and for them it boils down to the guy(s) being turned off or intimidated by them.
I also feel a twinge of irritation as these threads sometimes come off as humble-brags to me. Maybe I'm seeing it wrong, IDK, assuming that the OP is legit I don't think I'd have a problem with a woman that was more successful than me, I've always been with woman that were my peers or made less money simpler job, whatever the metric is that were dealing with here.
One time I had a co-worker that was dating a woman that was a controller for a pretty good sized company and she was making 6 figures a yr and this is 20 yrs ago I'm talking about so for a woman to be making that kind of money then was as little more impressive than it is today. My co-worker was probably only making about 60k a year or so, whatever, the point was that she was clearly more advanced in her career than him. I always thought it was sort of cool of him, that he wasn't intimated, at least that I could tell.
We went out to dinner one night and for some reason this woman didn't like me, I don't know why, I hardly even spoke at the dinner, but she straight called me an opinioned guy with a ****ty tone behind it. I again, hardly even spoke and not sure why she was like that, this is 20 yrs ago and I was much more quieter then and more shy, so sort of an odd thing for her dislike of me.
I found out a few yrs later that she was a complete pyschobitch. This is coming from my co-worker, so it goes to show, just cause someone can do well in their careers, doesn't mean that's everything that is important.
Location: "Silicon Valley" (part of San Francisco Bay Area, California, USA)
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I sometimes see this types of threads where a woman states how successful they are and they can't get dates and for them it boils down to the guy(s) being turned off or intimidated by them.
I also feel a twinge of irritation as these threads sometimes come off as humble-brags to me.
Yeah, I agree, man. People need to come off their pedestal. This is the USA, not Britain. We do not have a monarch who is Without Peer and has The Divine Right of Kings, and therefore we don't have social classes. Economic classes, yes. Social classes, no. It is odd that people who call themselves Americans would forget that we fought a war over that issue and that it is the whole point of this country.
Even Britain, though they still have a monarch, isn't really like that anymore, with stratified social classes in which, for example, lawyers refuse to have friends who are garbage collectors.
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I found out a few yrs later that she was a complete pyschobitch. This is coming from my co-worker, so it goes to show, just cause someone can do well in their careers, doesn't mean that's everything that is important.
Indeed. There is more to life than money.
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Location: "Silicon Valley" (part of San Francisco Bay Area, California, USA)
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It's different when you live in a high cost region. To afford the sort of basic middle class life I had growing up where I live would mean I need a household income of 250k.
No, it just means that middle class is different here than it is in Nowhere, Kansas. In Nowhere, Kansas, the median income gets you a house with a big yard, a swimming pool, etc., just like I had growing up.
In Silicon Valley (and pretty much every large city in the world), if you had that, you would be upper class, not middle class.
In a major city, the median income typically gets you a condo rather than a single family home. It is still middle class, since you are earning the median income, but it is different because you're in a major city.
And again, these are economic classes, not social. It isn't like Britain used to be, where if you're at a nightclub and you find out the person you're hanging out with is a cab driver, you say "oh no, we can't talk anymore; I'm a lawyer. I'm far above your station in society. Hence, we can't be friends."
I sometimes see this types of threads where a woman states how successful they are and they can't get dates and for them it boils down to the guy(s) being turned off or intimidated by them.
I also feel a twinge of irritation as these threads sometimes come off as humble-brags to me. Maybe I'm seeing it wrong, IDK, assuming that the OP is legit I don't think I'd have a problem with a woman that was more successful than me, I've always been with woman that were my peers or made less money simpler job, whatever the metric is that were dealing with here.
One time I had a co-worker that was dating a woman that was a controller for a pretty good sized company and she was making 6 figures a yr and this is 20 yrs ago I'm talking about so for a woman to be making that kind of money then was as little more impressive than it is today. My co-worker was probably only making about 60k a year or so, whatever, the point was that she was clearly more advanced in her career than him. I always thought it was sort of cool of him, that he wasn't intimated, at least that I could tell.
We went out to dinner one night and for some reason this woman didn't like me, I don't know why, I hardly even spoke at the dinner, but she straight called me an opinioned guy with a ****ty tone behind it. I again, hardly even spoke and not sure why she was like that, this is 20 yrs ago and I was much more quieter then and more shy, so sort of an odd thing for her dislike of me.
I found out a few yrs later that she was a complete pyschobitch. This is coming from my co-worker, so it goes to show, just cause someone can do well in their careers, doesn't mean that's everything that is important.
You would see more stories like this but these women are out dating guys like the one in your story, Not sitting on a message board saying men are scared of them because they are successful. It's stupid and only applies to a small minority of insecure men that are worried about how big the other guys penis is.
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