Married Man Texting Another Married Woman (women, husband, family, call)
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Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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Good evening everyone,
I have a bit of a predicament. I have a very friendly coworker who is married (he has been married a long time) while I've been married a shorter time than he has. Anyway, he is entirely too comfortable with me (he added me on FB) & sometimes makes comments on my page. Long story short, I posted some pics recently on FB & not only did he like them, he sent me some private messages that were not so appropriate...
I told my husband & he contacted him & he responded saying that first of all, I was a beautiful woman & we were coworkers and that I talk about him (my husband) all the time...bold or not? Thoughts? I never said anything to him but I do mention my husband frequenty at work & one of my friends said that by not saying anything, that I was silently enabling him & that I was to blame too...:/ anyone care to chime in?
Why is he messaging me every now & then if we are just coworkers & he's married? What's the deal?
I guess this just goes to show how easy it can be to "cheat" on social media networks these days...men/women can be so discreet...
When you put yourself out there like that, these things happen. I'd shut the facebook page down. Also don't tell your husband when your co-workers hit on you. It will happen but eventually you have to act like an adult and not bring it home. Just say no thanks. Sorry that happened to you. yuck~
A co-worker? Just tell them to stop immediately or you will file a sexual harassment complaint. After all the litigation corporations have seen for not preventing it, most would come down hard on the guy. Explain that to the guy. One more text and he will be reported. Nobody needs that BS in their life
If it continues, at least block the guy's texts. Call your cell phone company. I presume you have already kicked him off any social networking. Stop communicating with the guy about anything not work related. You only want to complain to HR as an absolute last resort because you can't predict the outcome.
A co-worker? Just tell them to stop immediately or you will file a sexual harassment complaint. After all the litigation corporations have seen for not preventing it, most would come down hard on the guy. Explain that to the guy. One more text and he will be reported. Nobody needs that BS in their life
If it continues, at least block the guy's texts. Call your cell phone company. I presume you have already kicked him off any social networking. Stop communicating with the guy about anything not work related. You only want to complain to HR as an absolute last resort because you can't predict the outcome.
They cannot control her allowing him to text her and openly comment on her facebook page outside of work hours.
She has to not give out her personal telephone number and she must shut down her facebook page or make it private for the friends/family she already has. 99% of the time just saying no works perfectly fine. I wouldn't have a fb page for strangers/co-workers to contact me, that is scary. Because you know what will happen eventually.
No need to make a spectacle dragging her homelife (her husband) into it ...nor involve her boss unless it progresses into harassment
They cannot control her allowing him to text her and openly comment on her facebook page outside of work hours.
She has to not give out her personal telephone number and she must shut down her facebook page or make it private for the friends/family she already has. 99% of the time just saying no works perfectly fine. I wouldn't have a fb page for strangers/co-workers to contact me, that is scary. Because you know what will happen eventually.
No need to make a spectacle dragging her homelife (her husband) into it ...nor involve her boss unless it progresses into harassment
What job could you possibly have where your cell phone number isn't available to any employee? For 20+ years in my career, that has been normal.
Facebook has privacy settings. You can boot someone and prevent them from seeing anything. You clearly don't understand that.
Why is he messaging me every now & then if we are just coworkers & he's married? What's the deal?
Unfortunately he is testing your boundaries to see if you are open for an affair. Start small, hint there, push here, see how far he can go. Ignore him or file a complaint to work.
I agree just shut him down. Remind him that if he continues to send you inappropriate comments, if you decide to report him, you have all the evidence in writing. In fact, you should send him a message saying his comments are out of line, and you want him to stop. More proof if you report.
It shouldn't mater if he is sending the messages off work hours. It is still creating an uncomfortable work environment for you.
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