Eye contact question (women, feeling, interested, reason)

[Swan Dive]

Originally Posted by Auraliea

If she's not, just know majority of it is on you.

I guess but she was receptive on Monday. I honestly don't see how being a little late would change her mind totally

we'll see.

[Swan Dive]

Originally Posted by Liberty2011

Thanks for that update. So tell me then, are you prepared for the fact that she might not be interested?

You've been obsessing about her for weeks and have done nothing about it. You've built up something in your mind that may not exist. Then what will you do?

This thread made this whole thing out to be bigger than I ever would have thought. It was an eye contact question that expanded over and over.

[Auraliea]

Originally Posted by Swan Dive

I guess but she was receptive on Monday. I honestly don't see how being a little late would change her mind totally

we'll see.

Irrelevant but okay.

The key word is "was" not now.

[Swan Dive]

Originally Posted by Auraliea

Irrelevant but okay.

The key word is "was" not now.

No its relevant. She would be pissed off or cold but she wasn't

[mlj1225]

Originally Posted by Swan Dive

No its relevant. She would be pissed off or cold but she wasn't

Not necessarily true. She could just be indifferent which may not make her act pissed off OR cold towards you.

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by Swan Dive

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Correct I thought she wanted to talk more in the gym

Not out if the gym. Or at least not yet. I was walking out the door and she asked multiple times. Other times she says she doesn't have much of a social life. She wax hinting at being single. I said the same thing to gef to communicate that was single. There's other stuff too. But I don't run into her sometimes. So it's been slowed down.

How desperate IS this girl?

I would never ever ever ever ever ever basically beg a person and run after him ("multiple times"?) like this. Nor would I expect a guy do it for me. I'd think he was...yeah. Desperate.

What is it that's wrong with this girl, I wonder.

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by Swan Dive

This thread made this whole thing out to be bigger than I ever would have thought. It was an eye contact question that expanded over and over.

Because you keep bumping it because it makes you feel like you're doing something about meeting this girl.

How about you don't post here again until you actually make progress with her?

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by Swan Dive

No its relevant. She would be pissed off or cold but she wasn't

No. She would probably have given up but still be polite, just as many of us women were raised to be.

[Swan Dive]

Originally Posted by JerZ

No. She would probably have given up but still be polite, just as many of us women were raised to be.

So the Plot thickens. She shows up with a friend they go upstairs to private yoga class. Fine

Later on I see her downstairs working out alone. So I go up and talk to her. Now this was totally unexpected she acts somewhat cold to me. She enters my personal space super close to me………… yet her demeanor is ice cold to me.

I don’t get it… totally confused

I didn’t bring it up due to her being cold at me I talked somewhat.

I then approach her again and told her some funny work stories it went ok yet she’s still cold.

This is very different form a month ago.

I have a feeling that she thinks I have blown her off and is acting cold to me, yet she comes up super close right up to me …leans in all that. She still does the looking and glancing at me from a distance. We kept looking at each other yet she’s cold to me. It honestly wasn’t like this before. She was totally warm and happy.

I can’t make a move with her this cold to me. No way. Not a chance. I have a feeling that I need to earn her trust or something back. I need to flirt more or build up some interest again…. and then do it.

I was 100% prepared to do it. But its contradictory …she comes up in my space when I talk to her yet she’s cold.

We keep looking at each other….. yet she’s cold. I see her glancing over all the time and I do as well.

I need to show more interest in her warm things back up then do it. She’s cold as hell. It was not like this before.

I suspect she thinks I am not interested …..so that’s why she is cold. I need to show interest again. I cant ask yet

Once again she was more receptive to me and warm a month ago…..And on Monday.

I’m not making a move on a semi pissed off girl.



JerZ. I think you are correct- I need to turn it around and then ask

I need to show interest earn her trust back or something then do it.

I cant ask, I need to communicate interest first.To let her know

[BirdieBelle]

What do you mean, she is coming right up in your space?

Is she walking up to you, or is this AFTER you walk up to her?