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A friend of mine sees no option for his elderly parents other than moving into his house. They are not in good health physically or mentally. Trouble is his wife and kids are not keen on having his parents live there until they die.
What if your husband or wife pleaded with you to let his parents move into your house for the next XXX years? What would you say?
Pleading is not the approach to take. There are so many variables that come into play here.
Do they have room for two more people?
Who will care for the parents?
Will they be able to live a normal life or have to tiptoe around in their own home?
Pleading is not the approach to take. There are so many variables that come into play here.
Do they have room for two more people?
Who will care for the parents?
Will they be able to live a normal life or have to tiptoe around in their own home?
For myself it would be impossible to fit anyone in that needs direct care given. My wife and I just do not have the time to give. It's not a lack of willingness, but a lack of logistics that would prevent making it work.
Depends on the level of care they need and whether or not we have enough space to accommodate them. We're already going to be cleaning up their financial mess and supporting my sister-in-law for the rest of her life; there is only so much we can handle without sacrificing our own children's needs.
Both need to be on board. It is not fair to have the parents move in if the spouse is totally against it. You cannot just ignore that there are a few people more there 24/7, you gotta have everybody agree to those new circumstances or life is going to be hell for everybody.
Both need to be on board. It is not fair to have the parents move in if the spouse is totally against it. You cannot just ignore that there are a few people more there 24/7, you gotta have everybody agree to those new circumstances or life is going to be hell for everybody.
Gotta sit down, negotatiate, make a plan
I agree. I also wonder who will provide whatever care they need or may need soon. Might be daughter in law.
My husband would not need to plead. His parents are always welcome. However, I don't think they would like to live with all our animals. They have their affairs in order and know where they are going to move. They will be just down the street from us, which will be nice.
Well, I know for a fact that his parents have saved enough for around the clock care at their own home, should they need it - BUT if the situation did arise, I would welcome his parents into our home. I would also welcome plenty of alcohol for me and some help in the way of caretakers.
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I think we need more info, OP.
