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All I know is that when I feel compelled to declare I'm going off the grid, it's because I'm feeling hounded and/or suffocated. Step back and look at how things have been lately.
Are you texting her 5 times a day?
Are you calling her multiple times a day?
Are you one of those guys who, if a woman doesn't respond to one mode of communication will then follow up with another? An ex drove me up an unholy wall with that--if I didn't pick up the phone, he'd call the cell. If I didn't pick up the cell, he'd text. If I didn't text, he'd email. It was like he wasn't going to stop trying until I dropped what I was doing to pay attention to him--and invariably the conversation would start with me asking him what was so important that he couldn't wait an hour for me to get back to him and him saying, "nothing, just wanted to say hi."
If you want a compromise, just ask her to give you a shout when she gets home at night, so you know she's safe and to say goodnight. But don't feel like you should have the right to be in contact all weekend while she's out and about. Give her some space.
All I know is that when I feel compelled to declare I'm going off the grid, it's because I'm feeling hounded and/or suffocated. Step back and look at how things have been lately.
Are you texting her 5 times a day?
Are you calling her multiple times a day?
Are you one of those guys who, if a woman doesn't respond to one mode of communication will then follow up with another? An ex drove me up an unholy wall with that--if I didn't pick up the phone, he'd call the cell. If I didn't pick up the cell, he'd text. If I didn't text, he'd email. It was like he wasn't going to stop trying until I dropped what I was doing to pay attention to him--and invariably the conversation would start with me asking him what was so important that he couldn't wait an hour for me to get back to him and him saying, "nothing, just wanted to say hi."
If you want a compromise, just ask her to give you a shout when she gets home at night, so you know she's safe and to say goodnight. But don't feel like you should have the right to be in contact all weekend while she's out and about. Give her some space.
I am not overbearing toward her at all. I don't even text her that often compared to most people. I rarely call her on the phone. There was even a time when I texted her good morning but I forgot to text her in the afternoon. She actually texted me in the evening complaining that I hadn't texted her all day, and she asked if I was ok.
Usually, I will text her good morning and tell her to have a good day. I will also text her later in the afternoon to ask how her day went, and I would text her in the evening to tell her that I am going to the gym and ask her how work went. There were times when we would text each other in conversation, but really it isn't that many texts in a day.
Personal experience has shown me, when a significant other doesn't want to be bothered by you, there is usually another man she is spending time with. Hanging with friends or girls night out is the standard cover story, because you don't want to be controlling and not let her spend time with her friends do you? Yeah don't fall for that. Ignore her for a week as well, see how she likes it.
I am not overbearing toward her at all. I don't even text her that often compared to most people. I rarely call her on the phone. There was even a time when I texted her good morning but I forgot to text her in the afternoon. She actually texted me in the evening complaining that I hadn't texted her all day, and she asked if I was ok.
Usually, I will text her good morning and tell her to have a good day. I will also text her later in the afternoon to ask how her day went, and I would text her in the evening to tell her that I am going to the gym and ask her how work went. There were times when we would text each other in conversation, but really it isn't that many texts in a day.
Maybe you need to stop texting and actually have a talk. OMG, in real time!
Personal experience has shown me, when a significant other doesn't want to be bothered by you, there is usually another man she is spending time with. Hanging with friends or girls night out is the standard cover story, because you don't want to be controlling and not let her spend time with her friends do you? Yeah don't fall for that. Ignore her for a week as well, see how she likes it.
This is so not true. Women can't just want to hang out with friends alone? Give me a break. Not everything is all about a cover story to meet another man. I wouldn't tell my husband not to txt me for a weekend if I was away with friends, but he probably wouldn't text me much. We have no need to be in constant contact. Do you have this same view of men, that is a guy wanted a guys night or a guys weekend, it must be a cover story for another woman? I bet no. And if that is the case, you don't have much faith in people. Sure people cheat, I have been cheated on before in the past, but I choose to trust someone and have faith until they give me a reason not to. A girls weekend is hardly a reason to be suspicious. It sounds like this girl likes some space...if you aren't into space in a relationship, she may not be for you.
This is so not true. Women can't just want to hang out with friends alone? Give me a break. Not everything is all about a cover story to meet another man. I wouldn't tell my husband not to txt me for a weekend if I was away with friends, but he probably wouldn't text me much. We have no need to be in constant contact. Do you have this same view of men, that is a guy wanted a guys night or a guys weekend, it must be a cover story for another woman? I bet no. And if that is the case, you don't have much faith in people. Sure people cheat, I have been cheated on before in the past, but I choose to trust someone and have faith until they give me a reason not to. A girls weekend is hardly a reason to be suspicious. It sounds like this girl likes some space...if you aren't into space in a relationship, she may not be for you.
Like I said, I was speaking from personal experience. Calm your emotions
Make a surprise visit with flowers in your hand & find out for yourself....I agree with Rise of virtue's comments.
I actually brought her flowers last week, and I got her a gift card.
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