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Its not location. Its having little to zero confidence along with unrealistic expectations.
All in!!!!
......... With the OP and his threads its more looking at women as the " Unknown enemy " and goes about dating in a combative way, he has these pre conceived notions about women and what they want or expect in a man and struggles to live up to that " expectation "
Ps is it dr Phil you've got over there mate?...... Tell him to get outta my seat! LMAO!
At some point, you figure out that there's a very low chance, if any chance at al, of finding mutual sexual attraction. You try talking to attractive women at bars, parties, the gym, etc., and they just don't respond to you like they do to good-looking guys. You're not attractive to the women you're attracted to.
You have 3 options:
Try to lower your standards
Focus on making $$$
Hope for a miracle
Option (2) isn't always feasible since by the time you're in your mid-20s or later you don't have much control over how much money you'll make in the future; your earning potential is already pre-ordained, unless you're able to get into medical school or something. Anyways, it would involve years of work and, although you may get attractive women, they're more attracted to the lifestyle you can provide them with than they are your innate qualities.
Option (3) is what most guys decide on. Just hope that one day you'll sit on the bus next to an attractive woman who will start talking to you and ask for your number.
Option (1) means you have to consider whether it's worth it to be in a relationship if there is no raw sexual attraction. Also it will involve a lot of time, effort, dealing with rejection and so forth, just to get in a relationship. Simply not worth it for a lot of guys.
While I agree with your last sentence, as I feel that way as well, why make a thread ranting about it? There's no point ranting about it, just accept it and move on to other things.
At some point, you figure out that there's a very low chance, if any chance at al, of finding mutual sexual attraction. You try talking to attractive women at bars, parties, the gym, etc., and they just don't respond to you like they do to good-looking guys. You're not attractive to the women you're attracted to.
You have 3 options:
Try to lower your standards
Focus on making $$$
Hope for a miracle
Yeah, it sucks when you can't find mutual attraction whether it be sexual or relationship-wise. I have never "gotten" the guy who I really wanted- at least not for more than a few dates before he disappeared. I've recently met someone who is attractive, has made an effort to get to know me, and hasn't run away yet even though I've told him unflattering things about myself. The person who you want is not always the person who is good for you. Some of us are just used to wanting the wrong people.
A couple of things to keep in mind. IMHO, women in their early and mid 20's know they are highly desireable to many men, especially to men older than them. So in essence, they are a hot commodity, with a lot of men potentially interested in them, so the bidding to get them is high. they also are in no rush, they'll consider many offers at their age to see if they can get the best deal. But as they get older, if they aren't married off, they become more desperate. Their biological clock is ticking, and their value is decreasing yearly. That means their more open to offers that more average guys can offer. Plus, usually, by then the 30 and up men are more established, have more money, are more interested themselves in settling down.
So at your age, the average guy is at a huge disadvantage. As you get older, the advantage will turn more and more in favor of the average guy with a decent job. So there's no immediate solution, but time is on your side.
A couple of things to keep in mind. IMHO, women in their early and mid 20's know they are highly desireable to many men, especially to men older than them. So in essence, they are a hot commodity, with a lot of men potentially interested in them, so the bidding to get them is high. they also are in no rush, they'll consider many offers at their age to see if they can get the best deal. But as they get older, if they aren't married off, they become more desperate. Their biological clock is ticking, and their value is decreasing yearly. That means their more open to offers that more average guys can offer. Plus, usually, by then the 30 and up men are more established, have more money, are more interested themselves in settling down.
So at your age, the average guy is at a huge disadvantage. As you get older, the advantage will turn more and more in favor of the average guy with a decent job. So there's no immediate solution, but time is on your side.
Such cr@p. Endlessly recycled cr@p, from start to finish.
Why are all the clichés being trotted out on this thread?
A couple of things to keep in mind. IMHO, women in their early and mid 20's know they are highly desireable to many men, especially to men older than them. So in essence, they are a hot commodity, with a lot of men potentially interested in them, so the bidding to get them is high. they also are in no rush, they'll consider many offers at their age to see if they can get the best deal. But as they get older, if they aren't married off, they become more desperate. Their biological clock is ticking, and their value is decreasing yearly. That means their more open to offers that more average guys can offer. Plus, usually, by then the 30 and up men are more established, have more money, are more interested themselves in settling down.
So at your age, the average guy is at a huge disadvantage. As you get older, the advantage will turn more and more in favor of the average guy with a decent job. So there's no immediate solution, but time is on your side.
This is only partially true.
Women get desperate as they get
older primarily if they've never been married
before, or if they haven't had kids.
Those are the only desperate females I've seen IRL.
Also most of the 20 something year old
women I know get repulsed at the thought
of a much older guy.....
But they do brag that they sure do
like to use the "old guys" to get them
to buy stuff for them
Exactly. As if women don't experience this, too. Yes, even attractive women, OP. It's called "life."
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