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Having a risk-averse mentality versus being inclined to take chances is something that definitely keeps people out of the dating pool.
Just with posters on C-D, you see some people who are really positive about dating as a process: they're big into OLD, dating a couple different people in a week, often don't mind walking up to strangers, and all that stuff. I think at the core of that is someone who's able to say "sure, why not?" and walk out onto the ledge, so to speak. And then there are people who are introspective, want things to be 100% perfect, and more inclined to prefer the status quo in their lives rather than risk awkwardness or embarrassment. I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with either of those personality types (I'm decidedly in the second category, though I think I have good reasons to be), but the first type of people are definitely more likely to be "in the dating pool."
Highly Sensitive.
This will kill people in many areas of life. Because they will be more sensitive to the slightest issue. If someone is a bit rude to them, they get upset and worry about it for hours or even days. If someone rejects them, they are thoroughly embarrassed and it easily gets them very down. Then that stays on their mind as well. So HSP will hold on to negativity, and sometimes it leads to shyness and withdrawal where they are just reluctant to deal with people. "If I avoid it, I won't be hurt or embarrassed."
And, just a theory. I think the highly sensitive nature is what causes the shyness and anxiety. Easily discouraged by any kind of negative feedback, and even the thought of it keeps them from taking any risks. Thus, their social life in general, or possibly lack of, is dependent on people coming to them, rather than them risking going to someone and being shot down.
Saw a thread just recently where a guy who didn't have much to offer in himself, yet he had a pretty substantial check list in a woman. I'm like, good luck with that one fella. Hope you like cats.
Even cats don't like that.
Being closed minded, acting disrespected and taking things personally if one disagrees, judgmental, superior, arrogance with no apparent reason, racist, misogynistic, poser. All qualities that are a far bigger deterrent than looks, IMO.
Ambition! EVERYONE is severely flaw, but if you let those flaws stop you from dating, then you're only limiting yourself. I see some of the worst personalities have relationships. Hell, I hear alot about prison marriages. If an ex con that murdered ten kids can get married behind bars, then surely a "broke male, a feminine male, or a fat girl" can find someone. There are tons of potential mates out there, but you have to be open and realistic to the possibilities.
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