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I realize that when you haven't agreed to be exclusive with someone that you can do whatever you want. I can see why dating multiple people in the early stages can be a good thing since it keeps you from putting all your eggs in one basket, but I don't mind putting all my eggs in one basket in order to give someone a fair chance. But I see how it could turn into you not being sure if you're really into that person or maybe you're only really into that person because you have no other options at the moment.
So I've been out with this guy twice and I have plans to see him again this weekend. We've been texting every day in between dates and he seems excited about our upcoming date. I've been trying to put effort into communicating with him and not be so emotionally detached and nonchalant like I usually am. So for the most part, I felt like things were going well (although I know that things can change at any moment so I remain cautious). I haven't had much desire to communicate with other matches on Tinder since I met this guy although I still use the app.
So while I was driving home from work today, I thought about a guy who I met a few years ago. I don't remember what triggered my thoughts about him exactly, but I decided to contact him just for the heck of it. Of course, I'm thinking that this guy probably has already moved on and has a girlfriend or something like that, so I wasn't really expecting much. We exchanged pleasantries and then to my surprise, he asked me if I'd like to have dinner with him this weekend. So I told him that I would be free on the day that I already made plans with the other guy. I feel like that was kind of wrong, but as long as I let the other guy know ahead of time that I need to reschedule, I don't feel like it's totally wrong. I've enjoyed the two dates we've had and I was looking forward to seeing him again, but apparently I still have some interest in this guy from my past. Guy from the past is impressive on paper, but I don't know him well. Current guy is not impressive on paper, but has room for improvement. (Yes, I know I am not a perfect person and I have room for improvement too.)
How do you handle situations where you're interested in multiple people? I know it's a common thing and I shouldn't feel guilty at all, but I still do.
Who would most likely to take care of you if need be? Date who you want but just understand the current guy will back off once he finds out you are going to see the other guy. What would you do or think?
Double book once and it works you will be tempted to do it again. If your looking for a relationship date responsibly. If not looking long term then go for it. Have your fun.
Who would most likely to take care of you if need be? Date who you want but just understand the current guy will back off once he finds out you are going to see the other guy. What would you do or think?
Double book once and it works you will be tempted to do it again. If your looking for a relationship date responsibly. If not looking long term then go for it. Have your fun.
I wasn't planning on telling him that I'm going out with someone else.
IMHO there is a difference between dating more than one person and cancelling plans with one to meet with another. You need to be considerate of all regardless of how you define your relationships.
Although not being exclusive obviously means the person doesn't have to commit to plans, once the plans are made, it's only courteous to keep them. You're doing the wrong thing. Ask your old flame for a different day.
I'm sure the guy you're thinking about blowing off has a life and a schedule too. This is an insult to him.
Although not being exclusive obviously means the person doesn't have to commit to plans, once the plans are made, it's only courteous to keep them. You're doing the wrong thing. Ask your old flame for a different day.
I'm sure the guy you're thinking about blowing off has a life and a schedule too. This is an insult to him.
I don't want to blow him off. I have enough time in my weekend to see both of them. I got the impression that he could maybe be flexible about changing the day, but I would at least give him sufficient notice.
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I feel like that was kind of wrong, but as long as I let the other guy know ahead of time that I need to reschedule, I don't feel like it's totally wrong. I've enjoyed the two dates we've had and I was looking forward to seeing him again, but apparently I still have some interest in this guy from my past. Guy from the past is impressive on paper, but I don't know him well. Current guy is not impressive on paper, but has room for improvement. (Yes, I know I am not a perfect person and I have room for improvement too.)
