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OH MY GOD HE'S WATCHING PORN THE SKY IS FALLING THE SKY IS FALLING
I am not sure what you feel this adds to the conversation or to helping the OP deal with a situation she is seeking assistance with.
A good start would be to realise that this is not about porn per se. It is about something that we _all_ have - which is boundaries and expectations in our relationship. And every relationship has different ones. Yours may not be mine - mine may not be the OPs - and the OPs might not be yours. But we all have them.
And for the OP the boundaries are that there should be no porn in the relationship and there should be honestly. And those boundaries are being breached. And that hurts and that is harmful.
The OP is looking for how to "cope" with this and this is the wrong approach. No one should have to "cope" with their relationship boundaries being breached. The correct approach is to communicate with each other - and either find a compromise and understanding and resolution - or the relationship has to end.
And crass patronising of someone in this situation - and laughing openly at them - is likely not to achieve much except to demean them - make them feel like their concerns and issues are not warranted or valid - and give you the false impression internally that you are somehow better than them. Which you are not.
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Uh?? Plenty of people aren't porn watchers. I find it weird that anyone would think that all people watch porn, especially regularly enough for it to be an issue in a relationship. There are plenty of people who don't in relationships and there are people who give it up, or rarely watch it, and it actually improves their sex lives and makes sex more enjoyable. One reason being they're orgasming less often, so you can have stronger orgasms during sex since youre not masturbating everyday.. Another reason is you stop comparing your partner to porn actors, and enhances your attraction to your partner. Studies have shown people compare porn actors to their partner, even if they don't realize they're doing it. There are studies and firsthand accounts of this all over the Internet, but since you appear to be pro-porn no matter what, along with some others here... I guess this argument is fruitless
You may have these problems, so you shouldn't watch porn. I don't, nor do the men and women I know. Sucks to be you.
It's just porno watched in the comfort of his own home. It's not like you caught him with your sister or found proof that he's been with a hooker! Go give him a hug right now.
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