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Both my younger brother and his friend, who were heading towards the gym said they saw her making out with another guy near where her car was parked, the guy got in the passenger side and she drove off.
The reason why I'm asking is because he wasn't quite the best brother 7 years ago, he did something bad and really hurt me. I was engaged at the time (I was then 24 and he was 19) but broke it off because I discovered she cheated with him. He was remorseful afterwards, kept promising he wouldn't ever hurt me like this again. It took me about 3 years to reconnect with him and we're ok by now. Since he's my brother and I couldn't find it in me to hate him, I forgave him but never forgot (we just don't bring up the topic and haven't for the longest). As for my ex fiancee, I went permanent NC with her.
What's concerning is his friend is saying the exact same thing. But should I take my brother's word this time? He claims to want the best for me, still regrets what he did back then but isn't after my gf and is just informing what he and his friend saw. In addition, our relationship has been nothing but arguments over these past 3-4 months and she apparently seems to be busy on some days (she has already cancelled two dates), keeps saying that she's been working on double shifts.
I'll be seeing her sometime today. Should I go straight toward the confrontation route and ask her or do my own investigation?
Both my younger brother and his friend, who were heading towards the gym said they saw her making out with another guy near where her car was parked, the guy got in the passenger side and she drove off.
The reason why I'm asking is because he wasn't quite the best brother 7 years ago, he did something bad and really hurt me. I was engaged at the time (I was then 24 and he was 19) but broke it off because I discovered she cheated with him. He was remorseful afterwards, kept promising he wouldn't ever hurt me like this again. It took me about 3 years to reconnect with him and we're ok by now. Since he's my brother and I couldn't find it in me to hate him, I forgave him but never forgot (we just don't bring up the topic and haven't for the longest). As for my ex fiancee, I went permanent NC with her.
What's concerning is his friend is saying the exact same thing. But should I take my brother's word this time? He claims to want the best for me, still regrets what he did back then but isn't after my gf and is just informing what he and his friend saw. In addition, our relationship has been nothing but arguments over these past 3-4 months and she apparently seems to be busy on some days (she has already cancelled two dates), keeps saying that she's been working on double shifts.
I'll be seeing her sometime today. Should I go straight toward the confrontation route and ask her or do my own investigation?
You said you're OK now. Plus the friend saw it too??
I don't think I would go over there either, unless you DO plan to confront her. It doesn't have to be an angry confrontation. Just ask her if she was with Dude today on ________ Street at XX time. Her reaction will tell you what you need to know.
She's your gf. Is it safe to say you both have discussed exclusivity?
Maybe ask her - nicely? Like, babe, my brother thought he saw you making out with some guy near where you park your car. Is he right?
Even if he is right, if you guys haven't discussed exclusivity then she didn't do anything wrong.
If the brother's friend doesn't even know your girl friend, but he's saying he saw it, Id be very suspicious.
If she denies it, is she worth giving her the benefit of the doubt?
I vote for this, too. Don't make an accusation... Inquire nicely. And, do... ask yourself if she's worth giving the benefit of doubt. Her response to your inquiry may give you the answer.
Good luck.
What does your brother's past lousy thing to do to you have to do with today? Does he have any reason to lie about this? Does the friend have any reason to lie about it?
Go see her. In a calm voice, after a few minutes, say, "Hey, my friend saw you at xyz place. What were you doing there?" Follow up with, "He said he saw some guy get into your car." Listen and watch. It will tell you everything you need to know.
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