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A very close friend of mine and I both really liked each other (although I wasn't sure if she liked me), and I finally got up the courage to ask her out. And she said yes. We are going to keep our relationship a secret from our mutual friends until we become comfortable enough to tell them. We talked a lot more after she said yes to going out with me, going back to our normal conversation (nice weather today, etc.). The conversation ended a little while later. She was at a holiday party tonight and texted me asking how miniature golfing was (we go mini golfing with 3 mutual friends every Friday night, but she wasn't there tonight) and said that she just texted me because she wanted to talk to me. We are going to plan our date tomorrow since she is at that party tonight. So, knowing that she really likes me, does anyone have answers to these following questions:
-Should we go out during the day or at night?
-What should we do for our first date? We both love hiking. Should we do that or go out for dinner instead or for coffee?
-What should I wear on the date? (I know it depends on the occasion, but let's just say for dinner because I obviously know I'd wear hiking clothes to hike.)
-I am free tomorrow night and so is she, but will I seem disinterested if I arrange the date for next week instead so that I have more time to prepare?
Those are all my questions. And please nobody say don't do this because I know we like each other, and we discussed it openly and honestly. I did not ask her out until I was absolutely sure that she liked me too.
Why do you need to prepare? You need to just go on the date, not overthink, and you really should be able to figure out all the answers to these questions yourself.
Don't overthink it. Ask her what she would like to do, then dress appropriately for the occasion. Set up the date asap otherwise you'll be a nervous wreck by next week. Good luck!
Why do you need to prepare? You need to just go on the date, not overthink, and you really should be able to figure out all the answers to these questions yourself.
It's not that I can't figure them out myself, but what's wrong with wanting a little help from you guys? It is a pretty big thing.
It's not that I can't figure them out myself, but what's wrong with wanting a little help from you guys? It is a pretty big thing.
You don't need help with this. Give yourself more credit. You should know what day of the week, time of day, attire and activity to do without having to ask for feedback from strangers.
You don't need help with this. Give yourself more credit. You should know what day of the week, time of day, attire and activity to do without having to ask for feedback from strangers.
I understand. I recognize the name, and you have been very helpful. But since this is a friend I'm taking out who really likes me, I just want to make everything perfect. But that is a compliment anyway.
I understand. I recognize the name, and you have been very helpful. But since this is a friend I'm taking out who really likes me, I just want to make everything perfect. But that is a compliment anyway.
Don't aim for perfect. Aim for having a good time and getting to know each other better.
Wear casual clothes, jeans with nice collared shirt.
Make sure you shave and have nice haircut (no monkey neck). Deodorant is a must, but NO cologne.
Do NOT fiddle around with your smart phone during the date. If you can't pay attention to someone during a date without engrossing yourself in a phone, something's wrong. Put that ish away.
Keep the conversations light hearted and humorous. Last thing you want is to get all heavy and lovey dovey right off the bat. Don't continually express your love to her, in fact don't even mention it. Don't talk about your emotional baggages, your faults, etc. Girls don't want to hear that 'woe is me' nonsense, despite some guys thinking that such 'brutal honesty' makes girls fall in love with you (it doesn't). Keep the focus on HER during discussions.
Don't be overeager in fawning over her or making too many plans for future dates.
Wear casual clothes, jeans with nice collared shirt.
Make sure you shave and have nice haircut (no monkey neck). Deodorant is a must, but NO cologne.
Do NOT fiddle around with your smart phone during the date. If you can't pay attention to someone during a date without engrossing yourself in a phone, something's wrong. Put that ish away.
Keep the conversations light hearted and humorous. Last thing you want is to get all heavy and lovey dovey right off the bat. Don't continually express your love to her, in fact don't even mention it. Don't talk about your emotional baggages, your faults, etc. Girls don't want to hear that 'woe is me' nonsense, despite some guys thinking that such 'brutal honesty' makes girls fall in love with you (it doesn't). Keep the focus on HER during discussions.
Don't be overeager in fawning over her or making too many plans for future dates.
End the date with a kiss on the LIPS.
The background music that played in my head as I read this post...
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