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I am very friend with a woman my age (50). We have been texting, going out... for 4 years. Recently she became more and more distant. She does not want to do anything with me or with other friends preferring being alone. She says that she enjoys being alone all week-end. She also became a buddhist several years ago. And she is different since. Also her mother has Alzheimer and I know that my friend worries about that. Sometime, I wonder if she is not depressed. I am torn between moving on or trying to help her since she is my friend. Yet, I feel like I am the only one to try to maintain the relationship. If I stay one month without contacting her she just send me a text to check how I am doing. That's it. I am always thinking about her and I do miss her and worry. I would like to help if she needs me. Should I stop being her friend and try to move on. I am getting older, do not have many very good friends. But, I am weary to see her constantly rejecting my offer to do something together. I also want to respect her privacy. Should I ask her if she still want to be friend, see what she answer and react accordingly?
Having a parent with Alzheimer's is VERY difficult, even if she is not a hands on caregiver. Even if her mother is in a facility, it's still a full time job making sure things are done right. Her life is not her own right now, so cut her some slack. People dealing with this barely have time to even eat or shower, so the fact that she texts you at all indicates she still wants your friendship. With all she is dealing with, having her alone time is probably how she recuperates from the stress.
Don't abandon her, and don't expect anything from her while she is dealing with this. The way to be a friend would be to offer to run some errands for her, bring over some healthy meals, or if possible offer to keep her mother company so your friend can have some time to herself.
I am very friend with a woman my age (50). We have been texting, going out... for 4 years. Recently she became more and more distant. She does not want to do anything with me or with other friends preferring being alone. She says that she enjoys being alone all week-end. She also became a buddhist several years ago. And she is different since. Also her mother has Alzheimer and I know that my friend worries about that. Sometime, I wonder if she is not depressed. I am torn between moving on or trying to help her since she is my friend. Yet, I feel like I am the only one to try to maintain the relationship. If I stay one month without contacting her she just send me a text to check how I am doing. That's it. I am always thinking about her and I do miss her and worry. I would like to help if she needs me. Should I stop being her friend and try to move on. I am getting older, do not have many very good friends. But, I am weary to see her constantly rejecting my offer to do something together. I also want to respect her privacy. Should I ask her if she still want to be friend, see what she answer and react accordingly?
Tell her that and see what she answers.
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