Ever Feel You Loved And Unloved At The Same Time (girlfriend, long distance)

[kunaka1000]

My Girlfriend of 4months has been going through a lot and i have noticed when she does its like she blocks me out of her life and deals with it on her own.

It hurts because she neglects me communication becomes less and even though she initiates it affection is reduced to zero sometimes it's been happening for 3weeks now.

We Also In A Long Distance relationship and has a beautiful 4yr old daughter

iv talked to her about it the 1st tym I asked if she still loved and wanted to still be with me she answered yes and nothing has changed from her side she was actually suprised that i thought something was wrong and she eventually opened up and started crying so bad telling me what was goin on, we talked about it and she was okay kinda made us closer and then 4 days later started drifting away again.

i let it go being queit for 3 more days and I couldn't anymore and asked her to tell me the truth because it felt I was really on my own in this even from our text she sent were dry she last told me she loved me on her own 3weeks back

I had heard enough and I asked her 1st via text she ignored me and tried calling same thing and then called late at night when I was sleeping and said she couldn't sleep thinking about us everything is fyn between us and she really wants to be with me if she didnt she would have told me a long time ago just situations at her work and her family just make her feel she wants to cut evrything out and be on her own she also started going for conselling.

she said she really wants to be with me and hopefully things will get back to normal In a few days or so.its been 2 weeks since I heard this story

How Much longer do I give her?

Might this be a sign maybe she doesn't want to be with me anymore?

what can i do for her considering the distance even in terms of communication? .

[Londoncowboy30]

I'm the same as her and I " shut up shop " when bad things happen, I know it's bad but unfortunately that's how I deal with it. We all have our different ways of handing grief, stress etc etc.

She's said she still wants you and even opened up to you, Put her feelings first and just give her all the time she needs mate and don't pressure her as you will push her away

[kunaka1000]

Thanks A Lot Londoncowboy30

so do you think I should just leave her alone and wait for her to make contact?

[Londoncowboy30]

Originally Posted by kunaka1000

Thanks A Lot Londoncowboy30

so do you think I should just leave her alone and wait for her to make contact?

Yes I would mate as I'm the same as her in this sense, the fact that she's opened up to you is a really big thing and speaks volumes about her opinion of you

For your own feelings ( I know it's hard from where you're sitting mate ) I'd just send the odd text here and there just to show her that she is in your thoughts.... It goes a long way and like myself I wouldn't forget it

You're most welcome

[kunaka1000]

alright will definitely do

means a lot thanks