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Tonight I am as I had to take the old man to hospital so as he's staying overnight I'm going to stay in with my mum so she's not alone on NYE. ( wouldn't leave her alone or would I be in the mood anyway regardless of the date )
It's only one year I've stayed in but naturally family comes first.
He will be fine and out tmrw hopefully but it does cap off a crap year all round and I've never looked forward to a new year like I am now
This is awful I wrote this on NYE on another thread..... I know I mentioned yesterday about our bond on this chat thread but this is scary it's all coming at the same time
Don'tH8me/RBCCL..... Im always with you my loves now more than ever
My dad is fine now though but was a scare to say the least.
So sorry for your loss, Chow. I am soothed by the thought that you and Sea have each other to lean on at this time of loss.
This has been a dreadful last week or so for me too, but my dad is still fighting, for which I'm grateful. He was taken to hospital, went in with an ambulance on NYE, had two procedures, started bleeding from his femoral artery afterwards, they also found a blood clot in his leg and sent him home late Tuesday night. Thursday night, called 911 and they took him in again. Like RbccL's dad, my dad has had a gajillion stents put in (okay, just 7 or so).
I'm in a near-constant state of shallow breathing and tightness in my chest, since my ex fil who was born in the same month and year as my dad just passed away last Friday. The thought of losing my dad now, when I'm in such a 'spread out' state, is just seeping into every moment I'm awake. I slept like four hours and went for a walk before dawn, tried to go back to sleep and my mom called with the news he was back in, and so back to the mental grind for me.
Praying that this year be better for everyone than last year, which I ushered in (2016) in another emergency room with my daughter, severely dehydrated with norovirus. What was the name of that movie - Waiting To Exhale? That's it - I feel like I'm subconsciously induced to hold my breath, and then when I feel like I'm going to pass out I remember to take deeper breaths.
Anyone have any tips to quell this, aside from drinking alcohol? I really want to rest and restore, quick, my next semester starts in about two weeks.
Sorry to hear this
As George suggested there are relaxation cds and apps that might help
Yoga is really good for breathing too.
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Originally Posted by Londoncowboy30
This is awful I wrote this on NYE on another thread..... I know I mentioned yesterday about our bond on this chat thread but this is scary it's all coming at the same time
Don'tH8me/RBCCL..... Im always with you my loves now more than ever
My dad is fine now though but was a scare to say the least.
This is awful I wrote this on NYE on another thread..... I know I mentioned yesterday about our bond on this chat thread but this is scary it's all coming at the same time
Don'tH8me/RBCCL..... Im always with you my loves now more than ever
My dad is fine now though but was a scare to say the least.
That was sweet, thanks!
I visited with my dad today and invited my daughter. She gave him her number, I didn't know they sometimes text
Glad to hear you visited him. I still wake up every morning thinking I need to call the hospital to get the latest update about my dad......
That feeling can take a while to "get over". My mom has been gone for three years, and while I don't feel the need to call the ALF, I still see or hear things that would make my mom chuckle, and my first thought is to call and tell her.
That feeling can take a while to "get over". My mom has been gone for three years, and while I don't feel the need to call the ALF, I still see or hear things that would make my mom chuckle, and my first thought is to call and tell her.
I hope you have good memories to carry with you.
Yeah, I still do that sometimes with my mom. I still think she's living in her little apartment across town and that I could just go visit.
IDK, like a lot of people have dealt with, I had a strained relationship with my dad at times. My mom is a whole other can of worms that I can probably dedicate a few pages to, but whatever, the past is the past at this point. My mom's been gone since 2006. My dad and I were just completely polar opposite in how we viewed the world and I probably wouldn't choose him as a friend, if that makes any sense. He, like all of us, have our faults, I just found his faults to be glaring and hard to overcome at times. Like I posted before, we've had a lot of deaths in our family the last few years, all around Christmas and new years. Mrs. Chow's dad passed couple of years ago, one of her brothers passed the year before, my stepmother, my dads wife passed a couple of years ago. My dad just now. IDK, I've been speaking at so many funerals lately I practically have a comedy routine from all the practice and material.
IDK, of all the deaths this one hit me the hardest. I think it was because to me it was totally out of the blue, I thought he was on the upswing and when I got the call I was just really taken back.
I guess that's how the proverbial cookie crumbles, IDK... it just seems surreal to me, but I suppose that's normal on some level. Who knows......
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