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You said, he is your BF, but he doesn't seem to be very interested in you or your life. Middle age has nothing to do with that.
Not sure how often you see each other, and what you do when together, but I feel like you are on the back burner.
I don't think I would like this kind of relationship. A guy who don't even ask, or offer his help when you got flooded, is definitely not my kind of guy. Seem selfish and self centered.
You said, he is your BF, but he doesn't seem to be very interested in you or your life. Middle age has nothing to do with that.
Not sure how often you see each other, and what you do when together, but I feel like you are on the back burner.
I don't think I would like this kind of relationship.
You said, he is your BF, but he doesn't seem to be very interested in you or your life. Middle age has nothing to do with that.
Not sure how often you see each other, and what you do when together, but I feel like you are on the back burner.
I don't think I would like this kind of relationship.
True.
However, I know some previously married folks are just looking for some companionship and not necessarily looking to remarry/be extremely serious. Maybe OP's boyfriend falls into this camp.
Nothing wrong with it, just need to hash those details out. She needs to figure out what kind of relationship she wants.
My mother (divorced) just LOVES to date men who have no intent to remarry and then tried to get them to marry her.
Not saying you are like this OP, just that you need to straight up ask your boyfriend. That's the best route.
After just three months no one is going to think about marriage, but come on... I don't even think he sees OP as his GF.
Would need more details to make my mind about what's going on between the two of them, though.
After just three months no one is going to think about marriage, but come on... I don't even think he sees OP as his GF.
Would need more details to make my mind about what's going on between the two of them, though.
Hmmm, I don't think I meant asking if he wanted to get married. I think people you can make your intentions/desires for your life pretty clear though.
For example, my father and his girlfriend have been together about 3 years now. My father was divorced once, and his second wife died. At this point in his life, he wanted a partner. My aunt never married and was the same way. People can be up front about the "level" they are looking for, if it makes sense.
It's pretty obvious after 3 months though that he doesn't want as much as she does...
Hmmm, I don't think I meant asking if he wanted to get married. I think people you can make your intentions/desires for your life pretty clear though.
For example, my father and his girlfriend have been together about 3 years now. My father was divorced once, and his second wife died. At this point in his life, he wanted a partner. My aunt never married and was the same way. People can be up front about the "level" they are looking for, if it makes sense.
It's pretty obvious after 3 months though that he doesn't want as much as she does...
You said, he is your BF, but he doesn't seem to be very interested in you or your life.
I agree. It seems to be a relationship more of convenience than substance.
Common sense would dictate that you would just communicate with him and tell him that you'd love to hear from him more, but honestly, that would kind of ruin it.
It's not just a matter of "I'd like X number of texts per day and X number of phone calls." It's more of, "I wish you would show you care about me by taking the initiative to reach out every once in a while. It would be nice to know that I'm on your mind when we aren't together."
To me, though, that's not the kind of thing you can tell someone. It has to come organically, or else he will just feel like he's filling a quota.
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