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So I broke up with my SO and had a one night stand with guy I used to casually date before in anger and frustration of the break up.
A few days later my SO contacts me to patch up our relationship. He doesn't think that the break up was real, just a blow out.
Now what do I do. Was what I did cheating? How do I bring this up?
In Friends, Ross hooked up with a girl when he thought Rachael and him where on a break, but Rachel calls it cheating and that gets dragged on through the show. What do you think about that as well?
So I broke up with my SO and had a one night stand with guy I used to casually date before in anger and frustration of the break up.
A few days later my SO contacts me to patch up our relationship. He doesn't think that the break up was real, just a blow out.
Now what do I do. Was what I did cheating? How do I bring this up?
In Friends, Ross hooked up with a girl when he thought Rachael and him where on a break, but Rachel calls it cheating and that gets dragged on through the show. What do you think about that as well?
If you want to be with your SO, do NOT bring it up. Not EVER! This isn't a sitcom and in life, people in general aren't as promiscuous as you see on TV or in films.
In your situation, if you were truly in love you would not have slept with a guy so soon after an argument. Your reasoning is immature and shows you are not really in love with the guy you were in a relationship with. Take time and tell your SO you want to date other guys because that is what you want anyway.
So I broke up with my SO and had a one night stand with guy I used to casually date before in anger and frustration of the break up.
A few days later my SO contacts me to patch up our relationship. He doesn't think that the break up was real, just a blow out.
Now what do I do. Was what I did cheating? How do I bring this up?
In Friends, Ross hooked up with a girl when he thought Rachael and him where on a break, but Rachel calls it cheating and that gets dragged on through the show. What do you think about that as well?
If you had broke up and I do mean broke up then no you didn't cheat
But agree with the poster above ...... Very convenient timing
Don't use TV as a reference point. I learned this when I was a little kid when I ran a saw across my brother's head, my mom was not understanding when I said I'd seen Moe do that to Curly.
Now what do I do. Was what I did cheating? How do I bring this up?
In Friends, Ross hooked up with a girl when he thought Rachael and him where on a break, but Rachel calls it cheating and that gets dragged on through the show. What do you think about that as well?
I think real life has little to do and less in common with sitcoms. Some additional maturity seems to be in order. Beyond that, it's your relationship, or not. Figure it out.
So I broke up with my SO and had a one night stand with guy I used to casually date before in anger and frustration of the break up.
A few days later my SO contacts me to patch up our relationship. He doesn't think that the break up was real, just a blow out.
Now what do I do. Was what I did cheating? How do I bring this up?
In Friends, Ross hooked up with a girl when he thought Rachael and him where on a break, but Rachel calls it cheating and that gets dragged on through the show. What do you think about that as well?
It is not cheating on the relationship. It is cheating on her feelings. Or in your case, cheating on his feelings. When you're in a relationship, you think everything is the same. When you break up, one person moves on days, months, years before the other person does. That other individual, who was tough when they knew you weren't going anywhere, wants you back when you move on.
If you broke up with him, who cares what he thinks do you want to be back together with him? And does he understand why you "cheated" on him; does he really understand or is he just upset because you bounced back quickly. Of course you did, you are the one that broke up with him.
I'm not saying that you're right. But I am saying, that it hurts a little, because this was with a guy you have been with before. So there is context here, and there is precedent. It would have been better off were it a stranger though; hopefully this guy does not know about the guy you were with.
As far as what Ross did, men do that all of the time. ALL of the time; I've done it, plenty of men do it. It's like women can just smell when someone breaks up with a man. They move in; act as if they don't really know but they really know. You can tell in that man's actions; he wouldn't act the way that he does when he is in a relationship. But it is what it is, and it takes two people to play that game. But you can get a lot of strange from people you never would have paid attention to otherwise, when you're on a break/dumped.
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