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@Funymann - I mean it is probably not the easiest place to find NOW. But when we first started out I kept the area tidy all the time. After 2 full years of Bob not looking down there then I stopped worrying about it at all.
Honestly, this sort of thing makes me smh.. That men can be so neglectful of their woman's needs. OP ~ Minus the children, I've been in your shoes and it absolutely sucks. Especially once you've had men who know and love what they're doing down there and would never dream of depriving you! ! ! * * * Men, take note please. You will never keep a (normal) woman 100% satisfied if you don't get down and do the do. You can be the best man in the world and it still won't matter, if you're not the best lover your woman's ever had in her life. ( There's gotta be some youtube tutorials you guys can check out, lol )
Exactly @D217 - I have never had the issue with any past relationship. I mean of course if I had known 4 years ago that I would be here today with a hairy downstairs, deprived of sex, and racking my brain on how to fix the issue I might have rethought our relationship but you never know!
Exactly @D217 - I have never had the issue with any past relationship. I mean of course if I had known 4 years ago that I would be here today with a hairy downstairs, deprived of sex, and racking my brain on how to fix the issue I might have rethought our relationship but you never know!
The thing is though that some people *gasp* do not like to do certain sexual things. Mod cut.. And, no, not every woman "needs" it either.
That you didn't have this issue in your past relationships doesn't mean that this guy is doing things wrong. He is just not compatible with you in this way.
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As others have said, you would be wise to walk if you felt you could, but you don't feel that way, so you need to try to fix things. I think it's OK to ask for what you want, and if he can't or won't do that, it's OK to ask why. Maybe (unlikely) his generally ultra conservative approach to sex is due to some issue he could work on, and perhaps working on said issue would make him happier in general? Maybe.
You've invested a lot here so you might want to really explore whether he can and will change his ideas about sex.
The thing is though that some people *gasp* do not like to do certain sexual things. [snip] And, no, not every woman "needs" it either.
That you didn't have this issue in your past relationships doesn't mean that this guy is doing things wrong. He is just not compatible with you in this way.
A guy who shuts down at the mention of any ways to improve sex is doing everything wrong.
She would be doing him a huge favor by making this a deal breaker. At least then he will have the chance to realize what a lousy lover he is and to do something about it.
If he refuses to even discuss this, dump him. Then have some long conversations with your kids about the fact that you broke up because the two of you were not compatible with some basic values and that it was not about them.
A guy who shuts down at the mention of any ways to improve sex is doing everything wrong.
I think we can agree on that.
What I was focusing on is the idea that there are certain "acceptable" ways for someone to improve sexually. That, gasp, there are some very normal people who do not like [Mod cut].
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She would be doing him a huge favor by making this a deal breaker. At least then he will have the chance to realize what a lousy lover he is and to do something about it.
Or maybe find someone who doesn't "need" [Mod cut.], or believe that it's some sort of universal thing that everyone should be doing. In other words, someone who is compatible with him sexually.
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