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I'm 25 and I never any sort of intimate relationship. Not even a casual fling. University took a heavy toll on me, I was always busy. Besides, I've struggled with anxiety, depression and tons of insecurities since childhood.
I'm more stable right now and I have this sensation of inner peace for the first time in my life. The thought of never having a relationship feels the natural thing to happen. It's as if it's a world where I know I don't belong to.
Truth be told, no girl has ever expressed any interest in me and even if one did, I wouldn't notice it.
When I think about long term plans for my life, they never included anyone else besides myself. My friends are all coupled up nowadays and it's harder and harder to get together. So I'm getting very used to doing things on my own.
We have all read the same original post word for word previously. If you don't want a relationship, fine. No one is forcing you in to one. Additionally, there is absolutely no reason to make that declaration on a forum that discusses relationships. Unless you're trolling for responses.
I'm not looking for anything intimate as of now but I've casual dated a few times. I'm not that much younger than you (a couple of years). Around 18, first year of college, I made the mistake of going into college trying to look for an intimate relationship or a serious relationship. Then left and right, people were cheating on their boyfriends/girlfriends back home and "hooking up" was the dating norm . This however changed over the years and by 3rd/4th year of college, some people got into intimate relationships but I was perfectly fine with being single.
If you do change your mind and want to start casual dating, try to talk to some friends with experience for tips. Usually if it's a good friend, they will be excited to help out.
It may not be common but I think it's healthy to be "okay" with being single, whether that's short term or long term. I don't mean everyone should be single but finding peace with being your #1 advocate, entertainer, supporter, etc. is important in life. Sounds like you got that, which is great... some people don't even find that self-assuredness even later in life.
That being said, as your life continues to get more stable and you make more money to afford good experiences, you may feel lonely not to have a "best friend" to experience it with. That feeling is very common and tends to be what drives people to want a significant other. I have a lot of friends who thought they'd be single forever for all the reasons you just stated but it all changed when they met their person and that void was filled. That didn't happen until late 20's or late 30's for some of them. If you've never dated, it may feel completely out of the realm of possibility to suddenly become part of a couple but the universe is mysterious. You're young so who knows how it will turn out. As long as you keep an open mind and just pursue what fulfills you in the moment instead of worrying about what's "normal" or "expected," you'll be happy regardless.
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. This however changed over the years and by 3rd/4th year of college, some people got into intimate relationships but I was perfectly fine with being single. 