She does not love me that much and it annoys me. Should I get out of this relationship?

[CAOU812]

Originally Posted by Masoud_90

The description can be too long and confused. I wrote many things and many parts of them are subjective. So if you don't want to read it all, please just answer the question in the title.

I have been with this girl for 8 months. We started as friends (I helped her a lot with her studies and she admired and coveted me for being really successful in our field) but there was always something more between us. At some point we were together and were having the best time possible without me proposing to be officially gf bf. I was the one who was a bit in doubt and didn’t want to get committed, but she obviously wanted it. we finally started a committed relationship 3 months ago, and somehow after it our relationship has not been that great anymore. Maybe we just passed the honeymoon phase or maybe she liked the more hard-to-get type of me. I really don’t know. We have never said the “I love you” sentence and we have talked and I know she doesn’t feel that much love. I don’t either, but the fact that she doesn’t really annoys me. I have never been in a relationship like this. It was always the other way around and I was the one who was loved but not feeling similarly that much.
She has broken off with me once but started it again herself and said that she felt a lot of feelings for me after that breakup. I have tried to show that I care about her in actions and compliments. She doesn’t do it often and she says this is the way she generally is. She does like me, expresses admiration, and gets jealous or does sweet things to me sometimes. But I do try much more. I am experiencing some type of depression too and I feel the need to see her or send her messages or do something that makes her like me more. I sometimes feel like asking her whether she loves me or not. The ups and downs of our relationship is really killing me and gives me very depressive feelings. I have a history of depression (or maybe some mild version of borderline disorder). I feel bad many times and I don’t know if breaking up can help me with this, although I would feel awful for some time after a breakup.
I need help

Break it off. Time to move on. It doesn't sound like you're right for each other. Time to face the music.

[Masoud_90]

Originally Posted by strawberrykiki

Both people should be equally excited about the other for a relationship to really work. If one person is way more into the other person then it's not going to work or at least not work happily. Most people would be sad if their SO didn't seem as into them as they were into them, not annoyed. Are you sad because you don't feel she likes you as much as YOU like HER, or annoyed because it pricks your ego that she isn't fawning all over you?

I don't feel she likes me enough or tries for our relationship as much as I do. But the worst part is that I am not sure if she really is not that interested to show it well or it's just the way she is and the way she would act in any relationship. I also have this feeling that I might have become a bit insecure and clingy. I really do not exactly know which is true.

[funymann]

Originally Posted by Masoud_90

I don't feel she likes me enough or tries for our relationship as much as I do. But the worst part is that I am not sure if she really is not that interested to show it well or it's just the way she is and the way she would act in any relationship. I also have this feeling that I might have become a bit insecure and clingy. I really do not exactly know which is true.

Are you medicated?

She may only like you in certain times of your moods.

[Just A Guy]

Originally Posted by Masoud_90

I don't feel she likes me enough or tries for our relationship as much as I do. But the worst part is that I am not sure if she really is not that interested to show it well or it's just the way she is and the way she would act in any relationship. I also have this feeling that I might have become a bit insecure and clingy. I really do not exactly know which is true.

Act like you don't care very much. Then she will start to act like she cares more. That's the way girls who can't handle closeness act.