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Well, maybe I'm just a bit more observant than you are, 'cause I remember names, faces, etc. Whether I was interested in them or not, once I see someone, their face gets filed away in my memory.
Usually I can tell when a profile is active. You can see the last time the person has been on (1 day, 1 week, etc.) If I see that they haven't been on for a while (a month or more), my assumption is they've either met someone, or given up. But I've seen the same profiles over and over, without a break. Maybe they're just "serial daters" who don't want monogamy.
And they say men are "players"!
So, you can tell that these have not taken a break because you are on there checking every week over the course of a year? 2 years? And is there some magic time where one must find a relationship, or be considered a "serial dater" pr a "player"? Seriously?
And this right here...? This is nonsense.
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Originally Posted by ItsRick24
I figured that with the women, they'd have at least ten guys a day messaging them, go on maybe 3-4 dates per week....and maybe, just maybe land a guy.
Hey, come on now...it's a proven fact that women get more messages than men.
Just look at the ratio of women vs. men on the sites! I don't care whether you look like Jennifer Aniston or Roseanne, you will get messaged/flirted with/winked at by men, even if they're not your type!
Men are a different end of the spectrum. We might get a flirt or wink from one or two women, unless you look like Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp or Denzel Washington - in which case, you'll have 5,000 women throwing themselves at you! But the average guy...way less!
Wouldn't you say that women are flirted with and/or asked out by more men, than vice versa? She might go out with him, there may or may not be chemistry, she may or may not sleep with him, but women have a greater chance of finding a guy!
Such was why my seeing the same profiles over and over baffled me.
When I was doing OLD (in fact, I'm still on one site, but discontinued others) I saw the same profiles day in and day out. I decided to try RL meeting, as it's traditional and I've met more women IRL.
I decided to take a look to see what's changed in the OLD sites. I can't believe it - two years later I'm seeing the same faces/profiles?? What the heck is that all about? Are these women NOT finding anyone, or are they just feeding their freeze-dried egos?
I figured that with the women, they'd have at least ten guys a day messaging them, go on maybe 3-4 dates per week....and maybe, just maybe land a guy.
What gives with the same faces and profiles all this time later?
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My boss is a very successful guy: tall, good-looking doctor. He recently got divorced and started dating again.
Today, I heard him say "I don't do online dating anymore. The women there are crazy."
Funny thing is he's an uber male feminist that goes on and on about women's rights and is very liberal in his political leanings.
I didn't say anything to him about it, but I privately had a nice laugh that, despite our widely different ideologies, we agree on this one thing.
I've had my current profile for about 1 1/2 years now. Haven't always actively used it though - I go through phases. So I'll be actively dating for 1 or 2 months, then I need a break. I might still check my app when I receive messages during the break but I usually can't be bothered responding, yet keep I keep the profile active just in case there is somebody who really grabs my attention. I'm not a player, I don't do it for an ego boost. You could argue that maybe I'm too picky which is why I'm not finding a boyfriend when I am actively dating ... But I just want to find somebody I'm really compatible with, I don't want to settle. If that makes me a bad person, so be it *shrug*
Hey, come on now...it's a proven fact that women get more messages than men.
Just look at the ratio of women vs. men on the sites! I don't care whether you look like Jennifer Aniston or Roseanne, you will get messaged/flirted with/winked at by men, even if they're not your type!
Men are a different end of the spectrum. We might get a flirt or wink from one or two women, unless you look like Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp or Denzel Washington - in which case, you'll have 5,000 women throwing themselves at you! But the average guy...way less!
Wouldn't you say that women are flirted with and/or asked out by more men, than vice versa? She might go out with him, there may or may not be chemistry, she may or may not sleep with him, but women have a greater chance of finding a guy!
Such was why my seeing the same profiles over and over baffled me.
What I don't get is why men on CD can't understand that just because a lot of men ask us (women)out, does not mean they are compatible! I've been on quite a few dates with some lovely guys but they ultimately were not suitable matches for various reasons. If you're asked out by a 100 incompatible people, surely that doesn't improve your chances? Not to mention that a lot of messages from men on OLD are just not even worth a response, again, for various reasons.
Finding the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, can and often will take time. You can also meet the right person at the wrong time & sometimes you are just prioritising other things etc.
When I encounter profiles from before, I might think oh there's that chap I once chatted to or went on a date with. I hope they find someone compatible. Then I move right along. No judgement whatsoever because I know we ultimately all want to find the right person for us.
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