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Well, as I continue on my quest to understanding women and perhaps settling I have found myself in yet another difficult situation. I have been on and off with this girl since last year and we have rekindle are friendship in the past few months. However, prior to the rekindling of this friendship we were sort of in the mix of things a year ago but didn't commit due to various reasons and we disconnected then. All a long story. We have been in touch again since last November and my interest in her has once again taken form as I have been trying to make things happen this time.
In the past few months, I have made my intentions clear and straightforward with her in what I wanted and well, let's just say she hasn't really said whether she feels the same way or not (at this point it's looking more like she doesn't) and it kind of sucks. I know she has mentioned prior that she can't be in a relationship right now because of college and she won't have time to do anything (which is complete bs) and I know I should've taken that and other things as warning signs towards not getting attached.
Fast forwarding to now, I have to say I don't know where I stand still but.. She has been a little more open and occasionally does flirt back at times (at times even she initiates it herself) and confesses in me a little more. Hell, I'll go to even say that she's even made some attempt into taking interest into what I've been doing lately and asking how my day is going (which she hasn't done before). Now, I'm still confused because if I were to bring up the subject again of becoming official sometime she dodges the idea and changes topic. However, what confuses me even more is that at time it appears that she goes radio silent for hours (which I understand she may have gotten busy) and she would reach back out apologizing saying something showed up.
Now, maybe she does that out of common courtesy which I appreciate, but I don't want to give her the sense that I'm a controlling person, which of I am not. To conclude this long post, I just want to say that this may perhaps be the most unique situation I may be in due to me having recently relocated to Florida and she lives up north. I understand perhaps she's not used to the idea of an LDR but she hasn't shut it down yet. My closing question would be, should I stay in pursuit of her? Or is there just not mutual attraction/interest to keep putting other potential mates aside in the future?
In the past few months, I have made my intentions clear and straightforward with her in what I wanted and well, let's just say she hasn't really said whether she feels the same way or not (at this point it's looking more like she doesn't) and it kind of sucks. I know she has mentioned prior that she can't be in a relationship right now because of college and she won't have time to do anything (which is complete bs) and I know I should've taken that and other things as warning signs towards not getting attached.
I just want to say that this may perhaps be the most unique situation I may be in due to me having recently relocated to Florida and she lives up north.
She told you her intentions!
She doesn't want a relationship while she is in college. (You calling that bs is totally ridiculous!)
And you say there are other things that reinforce that fact.
Moving far away does not change anything, as long as she is in college.
Stop pursuing her & move on with your life. Some women enjoy the chase although they have no interest. I guarantee when you ignore her, she's going to start tip toeing around but don't fall for it. She's not interested. Just chalk it up to lesson learned. All the best!
She told you her intentions!
She doesn't want a relationship while she is in college. (You calling that bs is totally ridiculous!)
And you say there are other things that reinforce that fact.
Moving far away does not change anything, as long as she is in college.
I get it but I'm just frustrated and I had plenty of time to at least do something during my weekend with college and all. Also, there have been times where I would ask her how her weekend went and she would respond "it was okay, I did nothing but lay on my couch". So sorry if I say it's BS. I now know she was using me for attention and have decided to just steer clear from her.
Stop pursuing her & move on with your life. Some women enjoy the chase although they have no interest. I guarantee when you ignore her, she's going to start tip toeing around but don't fall for it. She's not interested. Just chalk it up to lesson learned. All the best!
You know now that you mention that... I sent her a text last night and she never answered back so I went on with my night. She texted me this afternoon saying "hello" and didn't respond when I replied a few minutes after. But it's like you said, she's just tiptoeing to around me for her own self-assurance.
I get it but I'm just frustrated and I had plenty of time to at least do something during my weekend with college and all. Also, there have been times where I would ask her how her weekend went and she would respond "it was okay, I did nothing but lay on my couch". So sorry if I say it's BS. I now know she was using me for attention and have decided to just steer clear from her.
Yea, these sort of stuff, you have to read between the line. If a girl said the moon is falling and thats the reason she can't date you. You have to believe she doesn't want to date you, but not the moon is falling part.
The reason is not important. The only thing it matters is what's her intention.
Stop pursuing it. She wants your attention, but doesn't want anything else. It doesn't matter WHO. YOU don't matter, it's the attention you give her. She doesn't want you, she will never want you, even when you finally stop and she starts hinting to MAYBE take it further, trust me she doesn't want it. Stop wasting your time, find a girl who cherishes YOU, and who truly wants your love.
Stop pursuing it. She wants your attention, but doesn't want anything else. It doesn't matter WHO. YOU don't matter, it's the attention you give her. She doesn't want you, she will never want you, even when you finally stop and she starts hinting to MAYBE take it further, trust me she doesn't want it. Stop wasting your time, find a girl who cherishes YOU, and who truly wants your love.
Thanks, you're right and I have already made the decision to not waste my time with her anymore. I'll look for someone who won't just use me for attention.
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