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I snooped on my boyfriends phone, I know. And I appeared to find something in a chat with his close guy friends when they were on a trip away his friend said that my boyfriend had went out with a transvestite? Now I don't know what to think of this. Also i had read something else that there was drugs on this trip when he stated to me that there definitely wasn't, now I know he's lying. Do I confront him and admit I snooped? I'm afraid of his reaction as I know how these things usually go, girl admits it and boy gets angry for girl snooping then makes the girl feel bad for snooping. In this situation I don't know what to do
Well he's very stubborn boy and will try completely put the blame on me for snooping in the first place I know I shouldn't have but I have issues about trust and this doesn't make it any better.
Ah, the age old "I snooped but I found out something bad so what do I do?" situation. Been there, done that, thankfully outgrew it. I only did it once and it was with a guy who had cheated on me and I (stupid) gave multiple chances. I snooped and each time guess what I found? Horrible stuff(nudes from chicks, sexting, etc) because HE was horrible. I just ended it and never looked back. I had never been that girl and didn't like that he made me act that way. I learned the hard way like some of us have to.
Do you want to be with someone that you feel the need to go through his phone? Was the date with the transvestite in the past? If so, it doesn't really matter. Are there other reasons you feel like you can't trust him?
You can confront him, but you have to keep in mine that you also did wrong by going through his phone. If you have that bad of trust issues, I suggest taking time and working on that. How old are you guys?
I snooped on my boyfriends phone, I know. And I appeared to find something in a chat with his close guy friends when they were on a trip away his friend said that my boyfriend had went out with a transvestite? Now I don't know what to think of this. Also i had read something else that there was drugs on this trip when he stated to me that there definitely wasn't, now I know he's lying. Do I confront him and admit I snooped? I'm afraid of his reaction as I know how these things usually go, girl admits it and boy gets angry for girl snooping then makes the girl feel bad for snooping. In this situation I don't know what to do
You are his girflriend, there is no reason he should be hiding his phone data from you. Rediculous. And ignore those who try to lie to you to get you to believe untruths. Looking at someone's phone IS NOT A SIN. That is of someone who has something to hide
You didn't snoop. He is your boyfriend. He was ON ILLEGAL drugs and dating a transvestite, someone else after lying to you. Pretending to commit to you.
You are his girlfriend, no reason he needs to hide his phone. And you found out he was lying so no reason to be feeling YOU did something wrong in finding out the truth about his lying, his drug use and dating a tranny. He needs to earn that trust back by being TOTALLY transparent. And remorseful for his betrayal against you, lying, illegal activity, etc...
You seem very confused about right and wrong. You need to understand the difference. Looking at someone's telephone history is not a sin.
HE IS YOUR BOYFRIEND. His recreationall drug use is a sin, it is wrong.. Lying to you is a sin, it is wrong. Fornication is a sin, it is wrong.
So forget about YOU. You didn't do anything wrong.
He has lots of explaining to do.
Unless you choose to ignore it and watch him VERY VERY closely for some years for now on.. It is possible history will not repeat itself.
I'd continue to look at his phone history for some years going forward from time to time. You know you CLEARLY need to do so, there is no question about that. So looking at his phone is perfectly fine, if he feels it is not, then he is hiding something. And you may need to break up with him as he is not interested enough in you to be transparent. He cannot be trusted from here on out so there is no reason he has the right to privacy anymore, he must be transparent. Or just break up with the looser since he clearly doesn't care for you.
If he blames you for HIS WRONGS against YOU, run like the wind. And never look back. Also get tested for STD's which is a good idea anyhow.
Good luck
Last edited by TruckeeWannabee; 08-13-2017 at 04:25 PM..
Why does there have to be a talk or anything? Just break up with him.
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Well he's very stubborn boy and will try completely put the blame on me for snooping in the first place I know I shouldn't have but I have issues about trust and this doesn't make it any better.
Um....pretty sure you are accountable for the snooping...so unsure how he is suppose to ascertain your action?
First step is to acknowledge you have trust issues. well done in admitting that.
The active invasion of privacy is indeed of concern.
He is not in this world to be surveillanced by you, so take that role off your plate.
What led you to snoop in the first place? Were their signs and you were ignoring potential red flags before all of this took place?
Regardless, he cheated and he lied.
It's up to you, what to do next.
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