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So I went the doctor and found out I had a urinary tract infection. They gave me all the medicines I needed and I immediately started taking my meds. I told my boyfriend about it and he seemed very understanding.
So yesterday was a very long busy day I took him to work at 6am and I dropped my children of to their grandmother so I could handle some business such as shop for the house and go to an interview. I picked my kids back up and went to get my boyfriend from work. Immediately when I picked up their was a problem. I bought a plate of Chinese food for us to share. When He got in the car I kissed him and said
' hey I got us some Chinese food it's on the back I already ate... the rest is for you '
His response ' stop lying all the time you didn't get me no Chinese food' I got really pissed off and asked him to stop calling me a liar for no reason and he kept tuning me out. Long story short it was a very long exhausting day and I was extremely Tired.
I offered to let him go to bed early while I had the kids on the living room REMIND YOU ALL I'm very tired. So he's sleeping like a baby and I finally put out kids to bed around 1030. Soon as they fell asleep he asked for a massage. I didn't hesitate I just told him it wouldn't be long because I was tired and had to wake up early with the kids. As I'm giving his massage he asks for sex I dropped me head on his back and told him ' I can't right now I'm too tired ' he started ranting saying I don't love him and ect. He finally told me I could stop his massage. So I lay down and immediately fell asleep he tapped me and started saying how I never do anything for him and ect. I was to tired to argue so I fell asleep. An hour after me being sleep he wakes me up telling me he can't sleep and NEEDS sex. My eyes are puffy and swollen and I tell him no because of my uti I can't and I don't want to have sex until I'm heeled. He got mad and asked for a hi as tired as I was I did it. He was not satisfied he kept asking for sex. I kept saying no because of my uti. He was really upset and just has a way of making me feel like a horrible girlfriend I put all my needs to the back burner and does what he wants. I'm just so upset because he could care less about my uti and how much pain I'm in and all he wants is sex while I'm extremely exhausted.
So I went the doctor and found out I had a urinary tract infection. They gave me all the medicines I needed and I immediately started taking my meds. I told my boyfriend about it and he seemed very understanding.
So yesterday was a very long busy day I took him to work at 6am and I dropped my children of to their grandmother so I could handle some business such as shop for the house and go to an interview. I picked my kids back up and went to get my boyfriend from work. Immediately when I picked up their was a problem. I bought a plate of Chinese food for us to share. When He got in the car I kissed him and said
' hey I got us some Chinese food it's on the back I already ate... the rest is for you '
His response ' stop lying all the time you didn't get me no Chinese food' I got really pissed off and asked him to stop calling me a liar for no reason and he kept tuning me out. Long story short it was a very long exhausting day and I was extremely Tired.
I offered to let him go to bed early while I had the kids on the living room REMIND YOU ALL I'm very tired. So he's sleeping like a baby and I finally put out kids to bed around 1030. Soon as they fell asleep he asked for a massage. I didn't hesitate I just told him it wouldn't be long because I was tired and had to wake up early with the kids. As I'm giving his massage he asks for sex I dropped me head on his back and told him ' I can't right now I'm too tired ' he started ranting saying I don't love him and ect. He finally told me I could stop his massage. So I lay down and immediately fell asleep he tapped me and started saying how I never do anything for him and ect. I was to tired to argue so I fell asleep. An hour after me being sleep he wakes me up telling me he can't sleep and NEEDS sex. My eyes are puffy and swollen and I tell him no because of my uti I can't and I don't want to have sex until I'm heeled. He got mad and asked for a hi as tired as I was I did it. He was not satisfied he kept asking for sex. I kept saying no because of my uti. He was really upset and just has a way of making me feel like a horrible girlfriend I put all my needs to the back burner and does what he wants. I'm just so upset because he could care less about my uti and how much pain I'm in and all he wants is sex while I'm extremely exhausted.
Nevermind. I just read your other threads. He IS controlling and abusive.
What, exactly, is your question. You already know you should leave and that nothing will change with him and that his actions towards this are completely normal for him.
Do your kids a favor. Put them up for adoption. Then leave him and work on getting your own life together.
From reading your other posts, I get 22, 2 children by the guy you are with, and a toxic relationship. You say you don't have family to bail you out so you're economically trapped.
Your medium term plan needs to be obtaining job skills to be able to live on your own away from this toxic relationship. In the short term, you are kind of trapped. A healthy relationship with a real adult is nothing like what you are experiencing. You deserve better.
From reading your other posts, I get 22, 2 children by the guy you are with, and a toxic relationship. You say you don't have family to bail you out so you're economically trapped.
Your medium term plan needs to be obtaining job skills to be able to live on your own away from this toxic relationship. In the short term, you are kind of trapped. A healthy relationship with a real adult is nothing like what you are experiencing. You deserve better.
Thanks for this background info.
Your bf is not a man, he's a child. Probably worse behaved than your own kids. Who are these grandparents you dropped the kids off with: your parents or his? If they're yours, would they consider letting you move back in with them? You need an escape plan. His demanding nature, and his unwarranted accusations, are bordering on abusive.
BTW, whatever happened to the Chinese food? Did he eat it? Did it get thrown out? What a weird scene. No more kids by this guy, OP! And remember: oral birth control doesn't work when you're taking antibiotics. (For future reference, to prevent an "oops".) Ask your doc next time if there's anything else that interferes with oral bc.
Take care. Have the courage to do what you need to do: leave, when you have your ducks lined up in a row. Get support from family or friends.
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