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So...you're worried that your live-in BF has never said "I love you," but you've also never said "I love you" to him? Seems like a double standard there to me. Have you considered maybe he is also afraid to say that just like you are?
How and why does him saying that first make it more meaningful? Another romantic fantasy. Committed relationships are not all about romantic fantasies. Some days committed relationships are hard. They take care and effort.
It's consistently difficult for me to read posts on this forum that complain about difficulties in a relationship because of some romantic fantasy. I always just want to say, "live in the real world with real humans with real faults and exert real effort." When that happens true intimacy and romance thrives. It's not a Disney princess movie. It's real life.
I mentioned how he never said he loved me and his response was "for some people it just comes hard."
That's a good point, too. He added her as a beneficiary and talks about having kids and a life together. Maybe he even shows that he loves her in other ways. One doesn't do that with someone they "kinda like".
It's a sentence that many people easily throw around without real meaning. Perhaps he thinks differently and needs more time, or wants to say it in a special moment.
It's time to either take a chance and say it first or sit down and have a real talk with him about it. I would just say it. His actions are showing you that he does love you and sees a future with you so I think he's just one of those people that has trouble spitting the words out first just like you.
Hrm... I learned to say I love you but it didn't come natural to me. It feels corny for me.
If your man's action is clearly showing he loves you, that is a better read than any words can express. To some men, it is easier to show his love thru action than words.
On the other hand, words come easier with player type but their actions are limited.
I'm sorry, if someone really loves you but can't articulate it, that's a problem. Especially when he knows the outcome is that you are insecure about his feelings.
What will happen when you have to have hard conversations in your relationship? How will that work?
Will he be able to tell his children that he loves them?
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