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I'm not sure this is realistic. I'm sure a lot of women (and men) aren't in relationships with their ideal physical type but that doesn't mean that they don't find their partners attractive.
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There is more to attraction that ticking off boxes on some sort of list of physical preferences
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Do I have preferences? Sure, but there are just that: preferences. They aren't requirements. I find all sorts of men attractive and I have dated short and tall men, thin, overweight or muscly, blond and dark haired guys. As long as she is attracted to you, what does it matter?
These. OP, wouldn't you prefer that your partner value you for who you are, rather than your current physical state, which, trust me, will morph significantly as you age?
You may think you'll continue to work out all your life, but when you lose a significant amount of T and HGH, you won't be able to maintain your muscle mass to the same extent, and the hormonal changes could cause you to develop a thicker middle. And there's nothing you can do if your hair decides to abandon ship. At that point, you'd better hope your partner was into you more because of your character than the transient physical qualities.
There is more to attraction that ticking off boxes on some sort of list of physical preferences
I know that, but physical attraction matters a lot too. It still wouldn't be a good feeling to know you don't match a lot of your partners preferences in terms of physical looks. Maybe it gets to me more since I want a woman to find me really attractive physically as well as in an emotional sense in terms of how my personality is to her.
In my experience, if a man does not meet the criteria the woman has set up to a tee, they will find themselves texting after the date without ever hearing response back. aka ghosted.
Sure, sometimes I'm just not feeling physically attracted. More often than not though, when I'm not interested in a second date, it has to do with a lack of attraction to my date's personality rather than any physical preferences I might have.
This. OP, wouldn't you prefer that your partner value you for who you are, rather than your current physical state, which, trust me, will morph significantly as you age?
But I just wouldn't want the physical attraction to be sort of one sided. If I find her way more physically attractive than she does for me how would that ever work out? I know it's not just about physical looks of course I get that but physical looks are really important otherwise online dating wouldn't be as shallow as it is where some apps are literally just based on how you look.
But I just wouldn't want the physical attraction to be sort of one sided. If I find her way more physically attractive than she does for me how would that ever work out? I know it's not just about physical looks of course I get that but physical looks are really important otherwise online dating wouldn't be as shallow as it is where some apps are literally just based on how you look.
Yes, it would be great if both people were equally physically attracted to each other. But assuming you can't find this, would you prefer to just be single or would you prefer to "settle" for a woman who is much more attracted to you than you are to her?
Yes, it would be great if both people were equally physically attracted to each other. But assuming you can't find this, would you prefer to just be single or would you prefer to "settle" for a woman who is much more attracted to you than you are to her?
If there wasn't much physical attraction on my part I wouldn't be with her to begin with. Call it shallow or whatever but I just wouldn't be able to do it. It would bother me too much if there's not much attraction on my part & I wouldn't want to waste either of our time since it wouldn't be fair to either of us. So to answer your question, yeah I would prefer to be single since what good is being with someone I'm not that attracted to?
But I just wouldn't want the physical attraction to be sort of one sided. If I find her way more physically attractive than she does for me how would that ever work out? I know it's not just about physical looks of course I get that but physical looks are really important otherwise online dating wouldn't be as shallow as it is where some apps are literally just based on how you look.
How do you plan to quantify "finding someone way more physically attractive"?
If there wasn't much physical attraction on my part I wouldn't be with her to begin with. Call it shallow or whatever but I just wouldn't be able to do it. It would bother me too much if there's not much attraction on my part & I wouldn't want to waste either of our time since it wouldn't be fair to either of us. So to answer your question, yeah I would prefer to be single since what good is being with someone I'm not that attracted to?
I agree, but I think a lot of people find something to like about the other person even if they aren't their ideal physical type just because they want to have sex, have a life partner, have a kid, etc. My dad was never my mom's type and even though she could attract guys who were her type, she decided that she liked other things about my dad. Not to say that they lived happily ever after, but basically I was the result of a woman settling for a man who wasn't her type so I assume it happens a lot. lol
But I just wouldn't want the physical attraction to be sort of one sided. If I find her way more physically attractive than she does for me how would that ever work out? I know it's not just about physical looks of course I get that but physical looks are really important otherwise online dating wouldn't be as shallow as it is where some apps are literally just based on how you look.
It works out great for many happy couples where the woman is attractive and the guy is a shlump or what used to be called a "weakling", a shortie, or whatever. And for the couples where the guy is really good-looking and the woman is average or "meh".
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