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Why would I do that when I can meet people and then plan a date as I've been doing for decades?
You go to a meeting, or you go to a meet and greet. That's what you're going to call it.
I go to meetings all of the time. I've been to meet and greets, there are never any romantic intentions with the people there.
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You go to a meeting, or you go to a meet and greet. That's what you're going to call it.
I go to meetings all of the time. I've been to meet and greets, there are never any romantic intentions with the people there.
I don't have any romantic intentions with people I never met. How can I? I don't know if there is any interest or attraction to them.
If I meet them and there is some chemistry or mutual attraction, we plan a date.
Simple. Been like this for ages. It's no different than meeting a person at a party, or an event, or a bar or club. The first time you meet isn't a date. If you make plans to go out with them, that's a date.
I don't have any romantic intentions with people I never met. How can I? I don't know if there is any interest or attraction to them.
If I meet them and there is some chemistry or mutual attraction, we plan a date.
Simple. Been like this for ages. It's no different than meeting a person at a party, or an event, or a bar or club. The first time you meet isn't a date. If you make plans to go out with them, that's a date.
You connect with someone on OLD and make plans to meet in person Thursday night. A buddy asks if you want to come over to watch the game Thursday night. Do you tell him you can't, because you're going to a meet and greet? Or on a date?
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You connect with someone on OLD and make plans to meet in person Thursday night. A buddy asks if you want to come over to watch the game Thursday night. Do you tell him you can't, because you're going to a meet and greet? Or on a date?
I tell them I have plans. If they push, I tell them I'm meeting someone for a drink. It wouldn't occur to me to call it a date since I never met the person.
I don't have any romantic intentions with people I never met. How can I? I don't know if there is any interest or attraction to them.
If I meet them and there is some chemistry or mutual attraction, we plan a date.
Simple. Been like this for ages. It's no different than meeting a person at a party, or an event, or a bar or club. The first time you meet isn't a date. If you make plans to go out with them, that's a date.
It's been like that for you for ages.
Otherwise, the confusion seems to come from the generally accetped definitions of the words that others have used for ages:
Definition of MEET AND GREET/ MERRIAM WEBSTER
1. a reception at which a public figure (as a politician or rock star) socializes with press members and other guests
Urban Dictionary: meet and greet
Example:
The National Protological Association annuall convention's meet and greet was a success. I met with the heads of 5 manufactures, 4 resellers, 2 financiers, and ...
What is a date?
Urban Dictionary: date
1. Since the exploration of romance is the purpose of a date, merely asking someone out on a date is sufficient to broach the subject. Dates may or not continue ...
Merriam Webster
Definition of DATE
1. 1a : the time at which an event occurs <the date of his birth>b : a statement of the time of execution or making <the date on the letter>
2. 2: DURATION
3. 3: the period of time to which something belongs
4. 4a : an appointment to meet at a specified time; especially : a social engagement between two persons that often has a romantic characterb : a person with whom one has a usually romantic date
5. 5: an engagement for a professional performance (as of a dance band)
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There is no "First we meet, then we decide if its going to be a date after that" definition anywhere accept on CD-R.
I tell them I have plans. If they push, I tell them I'm meeting someone for a drink. It wouldn't occur to me to call it a date since I never met the person.
And if you told them you were going to a meet and greet?
Wouldn't they ask you what the event is? Celebrity, work related, convention, etc?
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It's been like that for you for ages.
There is no "First we meet, then we decide if its going to be a date after that" definition anywhere accept on CD-R.
Ok, so you would consider if you met someone at a bar and then decide to go out with them a date then.
I don't think many people would consider meeting someone at a bar, or a nightclub, or a party, and then making plans to see them again in the future, a first date. They would consider the time they made plans to go out after they met to be the first date. OLD is no different, the date comes after you met and decide to see each other again with romantic interest.
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And if you told them you were going to a meet and greet?
Wouldn't they ask you what the event is? Celebrity, work related, convention, etc?
No, they wouldn't. They'd probably say have fun. But of course, saying "I have plans" would be enough in the first place.
This forum is the only place I've ever seen or heard the term "meet and greet" used to describe a date that is somehow not a "real date" because it doesn't involve dinner. I can't imagine anyone using that term in real life.
Right? "And you are just foolish!"
but "you may call it what you like".
Brave new world! First of all, I'm old - small "o", not OLD - being as how I'm 70. Never once in my dating experience do I recall asking someone out I hadn't known and gotten to know for awhile. Why would I? Therefore, a dinner date for our first time going out seemed appropriate.
There were several advantages. It gave time to talk and get to know one another better. It was a pleasant and non-threatening interlude. It provided me with a way to gauge their social skills. Did they automatically order the most expensive item on the menu just because they felt they could? Were they conversant? Were they pleasant with and polite to wait staff. Did they have good table manners or did they bolt their food, keep their elbows on the table, chew with their mouths open, crouch over their plate, talk with food in their mouth, clutch their silverware in their fist, slurp their food...you get the idea. Any one of those would have ensured there were no further dates.
I wanted to date ladies with a decent upbringing and appropriate deportment. Guess that was my mother's influence and upper-crust, New York upbringing rubbing off on me and if she hadn't died 28 years ago I would thank her again for it.
I hate to think that the death of dinner dates is a reality. I still have them only now, they're with my wife of 20 years and, yes, our first date included both brunch on the beach and dinner.
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