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Why did you tell him? You know he's controlling. Is this the same BF who went out with his friends on New Year's Eve?
I would not call that electrician again. He should not be touching you.
I told him because I was shocked and he's not controlling. Yes he went to NYE with his friends but he apologised to me for that and felt really bad. So I've moved on from that situation.
Some people like to hug. Some people are weirded out by hugs. I don't think anyone should read too much into this. Now if the hug had included a squeeze of a booty or a booby, then by all means it's a come-on. I hug people all the time, male and female. It's not the prelude to me stripping off their clothes and sexually assaulting them. I'm just a physically affectionate woman. If someone is weirded out by a hug then naturally I would respect their boundaries in the future.
...the electrician I hired gave me a long hug. My boyfriend wasn't there, I told him what happened. The electrician just finish a big job, we had the inspector finally come out after 2 weeks of canceling due to poor weather. So now everything is done and signed, he felt the need to give me a hug and it felt kinda long to me. It was odd. He just did it and I stood there in shock.
I was quite surprised that my boyfriend got very upset with me. I wasn't expecting to be told off at all. He said I allowed it and I was being "friendly". I told him I was polite and respectful. I told him it was awkward for me cos he just did it and I didn't know how to push him away especially without overreacting or something. It was just really awkward for me at that moment.
What baffles me is, when my boyfriend and I first met he suggested going to strip club where I'd have to sit and watch him watch all these naked women and give them dollar bills down their cleavage and thongs but now he's mad cos the electrician gave me a hug.
He said "I wanted it" -_____-
Whole thing is just weird. The whole strip club thing and then getting mad at her because of what the electrician did... sounds unreasonable to me.
I told him because I was shocked and he's not controlling. Yes he went to NYE with his friends but he apologised to me for that and felt really bad. So I've moved on from that situation.
Some people like to hug. Some people are weirded out by hugs. I don't think anyone should read too much into this. Now if the hug had included a squeeze of a booty or a booby, then by all means it's a come-on. I hug people all the time, male and female. It's not the prelude to me stripping off their clothes and sexually assaulting them. I'm just a physically affectionate woman. If someone is weirded out by a hug then naturally I would respect their boundaries in the future.
It was a long hug.
There are hugs (which last a couple of seconds on average). Then there are those long hugs which are rather weird.
Even if I was attracted to her, I'd be a little uncomfortable with long hugs until we got close.
Plus there is a certain kind of discomfort I feel when I am hugged for a long time by a member of the opposite sex. I mean... I'd have to jump into a bucket of ice cold water to cool down.
OP, if your "boyfriend" went out with others on NYE, IMO you should not be getting over it and moving on. To me it speaks loud and clear that you are not number one with him -- that's a special night he should have made sure you two were together. From what little I see from these posts, I would encourage you to be open to finding another boyfriend, one that is not so controlling and puts you first. Best of luck.
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He should not be touching you.
