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I just had my electrician finish a big job, we had the inspector finally come out after 2 weeks of canceling due to poor weather. So now everything is done and signed, my electrician felt the need to give me a hug and it felt kinda long to me. Am I being petty? or was he being unprofessional? As a new homeowner, I've mostly dealt with handymen crews but they've never hugged me. It was really awkward, he just did it and I just stood there in shock. Has anyone else had any similar experiences?
I told my boyfriend and he's mad at me saying I allowed it and I was being "friendly". So maybe it's my own fault -___-
A worker in your home should at the most give you a sincere handshake. He was overstepping the normal boundaries.
Once my DH and I were looking for someone to tile our bathroom. One of the guys who showed up took my hand and gave the back of it a long, lingering kiss. My husband didn't see the problem, but it was not okay with me, I did nothing to encourage this type of weird gesture, and it made me uncomfortable. We didn't hire him.
Your intuition was telling you that it wasn't okay. Don't use him again.
A worker in your home should at the most give you a sincere handshake. He was overstepping the normal boundaries.
Once my DH and I were looking for someone to tile our bathroom. One of the guys who showed up took my hand and gave the back of it a long, lingering kiss. My husband didn't see the problem, but it was not okay with me, I did nothing to encourage this type of weird gesture, and it made me uncomfortable. We didn't hire him.
Your intuition was telling you that it wasn't okay. Don't use him again.
Luckily this wasn't inside my house, I think I would have been quite scared if that was the case. This happened outside my house on the streets where neighbours would walk by.
I definitely wont use him again unless my boyfriend is present and I won't have to be there.
If you felt uncomfortable, then it probably was inappropriate.
I would either not use him again, or make sure he is unable to hug me.
In any case, your boyfriend shouldn't be blaming you.
When men make inappropriate overtures like this it usually takes you by surprise and hard to react in a way that lets them know its not ok. Men who do this know how to create that situation. Don't blame yourself. You didn't invite it.
Why would you hug him? I agree , weird . But probably not the end of the world .
She didn't say she hugged him. She said he hugged her. There's a huge difference there. It sounds like she was temporarily shocked and stunned, and didn't know what to do without creating a huge scene.
There are hugs (which last a couple of seconds on average). Then there are those long hugs which are rather weird.
Even if I was attracted to her, I'd be a little uncomfortable with long hugs until we got close.
Plus there is a certain kind of discomfort I feel when I am hugged for a long time by a member of the opposite sex. I mean... I'd have to jump into a bucket of ice cold water to cool down.
Yeah, a too-long hug by someone who isn't a good friend means the guy has boundary issues. It's inappropriate. A hug that's too long, or too close, pressing too close, -- ew. It's a red flag for ulterior motives. It's sleazy.
No need to hire that electrician ever again, right? And warn your gf's or relatives or female neighbors about the guy or the company, OP.
Whole thing is just weird. The whole strip club thing and then getting mad at her because of what the electrician did... sounds unreasonable to me.
The guy doesn't sound like a keeper, IMO. If he truly cared about her, he should have been concerned for her, rather than angry. He should have said something like, "That sounds very weird. Are you OK? I guess we won't be hiring him again!" That's how a caring (not controlling) person reacts: supportively.
The guy doesn't sound like a keeper, IMO. If he truly cared about her, he should have been concerned for her, rather than angry. He should have said something like, "That sounds very weird. Are you OK? I guess we won't be hiring him again!" That's how a caring (not controlling) person reacts: supportively.
The hug was inappropriate, but why tell the b/f? Were you looking for a little pay back for the strip club? Like hoping the b/f would be upset?
We talk everyday and I was shocked and wanted someone to talk to. He's also my best friend.
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