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Actually, I grew up in a time where I had the option to do it either way (college mid-90s) and most people I know who are happily (or still, anyway) married chose not to do at the technology way. What does that tell you?
If, God forbid, I hit the dating market today, I'd do it the same way I did it before.
p.s. Asking someone out over text is totally chickens***.
It still wasn't anywhere near what OLD is today, though.
And lol at it being chickens***, why does it matter HOW you ask somebody out? I've asked out women via text, and we've met in person and had a good time. None have ever held it against me.
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It still wasn't anywhere near what OLD is today, though.
And lol at it being chickens***, why does it matter HOW you ask somebody out? I've asked out women via text, and we've met in person and had a good time. None have ever held it against me.
True, I was dating in the mid 90s, and OLD was barely a thing. Really, not much of a thing at all.
Of course I was in my 20s then so I was out at shows, parties, clubs, bars etc almost every night of the week... home at 2am, at work by 9am, day after day.
If I could pull that off, and wanted to pull that off (which I don't), I'd be meeting people IRL too. Even so, in that era people dated a lot of less than compatible people because that is who they met, and I think I know two people that met in the mid 90s and married that have remained married. People seem to meet much much more compatible people with the benefits of OLD screening.
Actually, I grew up in a time where I had the option to do it either way (college mid-90s) and most people I know who are happily (or still, anyway) married chose not to do at the technology way. What does that tell you?
If, God forbid, I hit the dating market today, I'd do it the same way I did it before.
p.s. Asking someone out over text is totally chickens***.
The 90's technology is way different than it is now. Be honest, you have no real clue how you'd approach dating if you grew up with the current technology. You can say whatever you want now but had you grown up with the current options, you most likely would have done things differently.
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Actually, I grew up in a time where I had the option to do it either way (college mid-90s) and most people I know who are happily (or still, anyway) married chose not to do at the technology way. What does that tell you?
If, God forbid, I hit the dating market today, I'd do it the same way I did it before.
p.s. Asking someone out over text is totally chickens***.
In the mid-90s they didn't HAVE text as a medium or even AIM, they didn't have a choice. Moot point.
When I was dating there were two terms: 1) acceptable behavior; and, 2) unacceptable behavior
We are talking like 8 years ago, and not the 1950s or anything.
I don't need to put a label on what I do not like in order to justify myself.
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Come on now. You did that because you had no choice. If online dating was around then, people would be using it just as they are now. People are people regardless of the generation. The only difference is you didn't have what's available now.
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The 90's technology is way different than it is now. Be honest, you have no real clue how you'd approach dating if you grew up with the current technology. You can say whatever you want now but had you grown up with the current options, you most likely would have done things differently.
Do you have a vested, financial interest in OLD? That's two of us you've tried to debunk and paint as "deprived" because we prefer other, old-fashioned but tried-and-true, proven ways to find compatible dates/relationships/wives. Or perhaps you just have something against the concept of aging.
Do you have a vested, financial interest in OLD? That's two of us you've tried to debunk and paint as "deprived" because we prefer other, old-fashioned but tried-and-true, proven ways to find compatible dates/relationships/wives. Or perhaps you just have something against the concept of aging.
As always, one generation thinks the other's are idiots.
I never had OLD growing up, but used it after being widowed after 18 years of marriage.
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So sorry you were widowed but glad OLD has worked for you. Hope I'm never in a position to even think about it.
But wait ! I won't be. If my wife goes before I do, I'm done!
Thank you for your kind thoughts. I was widowed at 40 and lucky enough to find a great guy to whom I am married to now. I wouldn't survive going through that again.
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Thank you for your kind thoughts. I was widowed at 40 and lucky enough to find a great guy to whom I am married to now. I wouldn't survive going through that again.
Way too young but obviously you landed nicely on your feet. I'm happy for you. Actually, I'm also an incurable romantic and have a thing for happy endings.
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