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I can think of 4 guys that I work with that their wives don't work (and they are not rich by any means), my next door neighbors wife doesn't work. That's all I can think of off the top of my head but I know there's plenty more out there.
Do they have children?
That is an important element to this scenario, even if you belligerently refuse to admit it.
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My whole point is I'm not going to work my life away so SOMEONE ELSE can live the good life.
Even if that SOMEONE ELSE is a person who you love and who loves you, and you can afford to make her happy?
Please tell me more about all the childless women you know who stay home "living the good life" doing nothing while their husbands resentfully "work their lives away"?
No! You started off arguing with the very first response you received.
Look, here's a simple concept. It's a very individual choice for couples, especially those with children and that's as simple as it gets.
Then don't. Issue solved!
I already know I would never be in this situation, I just want to know why other people are willing to be. This has been on my mind for quite a while and I thought "why not see what other's have to say about it"
Marry an intelligent, educated, kind-hearted woman with lucrative profession who loves you so very, very much that she will be happy to let you stay home and live the good life because she wants you to be happy and fulfilled.
You seem like a great catch, so it should not be hard to attract someone like this.
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If they have kids, there may not be much to gain financially after paying for childcare and commuting expenses for two people. So having a stay-at-home parent may make the most sense financially.
If they don't have kids, I don't know why the hell one party would accept the other not working and not bringing in an income. I'd never allow someone to sit at home on my dime.
Thanks for that non-answer. I'm more focused on the reasons why they feel it's a good situation.
Focus on your own reasons for demanding that your partner has to have a job.
No one has to answer to your curiosity.
And let's home your partner never gets sick, has an injury, has a child, has an auto immune disease, gets cancer, develops depression, anxiety or any of the many things that can happen to mere mortals........
I already know I would never be in this situation, I just want to know why other people are willing to be. This has been on my mind for quite a while and I thought "why not see what other's have to say about it"
If they have kids, there may not be much to gain financially after paying for childcare and commuting expenses for two people. So having a stay-at-home parent may make the most sense financially.
If they don't have kids, I don't know why the hell one party would accept the other not working and not bringing in an income. I'd never allow someone to sit at home on my dime.
Would you still feel this way if you could easily do it financially?
Again, your perceptions seem to be those of someone who has never loved someone enough to understand that relationships are not competitions, but sometimes require putting the happiness of the other above your own.
If they have kids, there may not be much to gain financially after paying for childcare and commuting expenses for two people. So having a stay-at-home parent may make the most sense financially.
The OP seemingly, refuses to divulge this information.
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If they don't have kids, I don't know why the hell one party would accept the other not working and not bringing in an income. I'd never allow someone to sit at home on my dime.
I know a few couples where one had to take some time off due their health (mental). ... who is anyone to judge?
Focus on your own reasons for demanding that your partner has to have a job.
No one has to answer to your curiosity.
And let's home your partner never gets sick, has an injury, has a child, has an auto immune disease, gets cancer, develops depression, anxiety or any of the many things that can happen to mere mortals........
I actually DO know someone in this position. My ex, who is an artist and fairly well off. His wife has mental health issues that make it hard for her to leave the house and interact with others. He loves her deeply, he supports her, and they are happy.
But then again, he is a grown man without insecurities or ego issues.
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