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I met a guy online who was away for duty and was coming back. He was crazy into me before I had even met him and I was super cautious. Before we met I said I will be keeping my options open and that we need to slow down quite a bit. In my experience when a guy rushes, after I get invested, they pull out and say they weren't ready.
We went on 2 amazing dates. I had gone on a couple dates w/other guys while he was not here and nice guys, but no connection. He told me on the 2nd date that we did need to dial it back and since he just came back, I was the 1st girl that he had met. I'd rather someone be honest up front. I promised myself I wouldn't get excited but I did (my mistake, I know). Anyways he said he is interested, but is leaving on duty for 3 weeks and doesn't know if anything will change in those 3 weeks. He wants to see me again and see where it goes. He wants to avoid jumping in. No sex involved for sure. Does he really want to see what develops or just go on dates until he meets someone else? I told him my fears of abandonment and he told me he did really want to see me. We still message quite a bit, flirty messages, tons of emojis and he calls me darling. Opinions? Btw my old paranoia is getting me, I'm looking at what he doesn't do vs what he does and every little thing makes me think he is disinterested and I'm just ready to bail.
I met a guy online who was away for duty and was coming back. He was crazy into me before I had even met him and I was super cautious. Before we met I said I will be keeping my options open and that we need to slow down quite a bit. In my experience when a guy rushes, after I get invested, they pull out and say they weren't ready.
We went on 2 amazing dates. I had gone on a couple dates w/other guys while he was not here and nice guys, but no connection. He told me on the 2nd date that we did need to dial it back and since he just came back, I was the 1st girl that he had met. I'd rather someone be honest up front. I promised myself I wouldn't get excited but I did (my mistake, I know). Anyways he said he is interested, but is leaving on duty for 3 weeks and doesn't know if anything will change in those 3 weeks. He wants to see me again and see where it goes. He wants to avoid jumping in. No sex involved for sure. Does he really want to see what develops or just go on dates until he meets someone else? I told him my fears of abandonment and he told me he did really want to see me. We still message quite a bit, flirty messages, tons of emojis and he calls me darling. Opinions? Btw my old paranoia is getting me, I'm looking at what he doesn't do vs what he does and every little thing makes me think he is disinterested and I'm just ready to bail.
My opinion is that if a guy ever said that (the bolded) to me, it would be the last we'd be speaking.
I met a guy online who was away for duty and was coming back. He was crazy into me before I had even met him and I was super cautious. Before we met I said I will be keeping my options open and that we need to slow down quite a bit. In my experience when a guy rushes, after I get invested, they pull out and say they weren't ready.
We went on 2 amazing dates. I had gone on a couple dates w/other guys while he was not here and nice guys, but no connection. He told me on the 2nd date that we did need to dial it back and since he just came back, I was the 1st girl that he had met. I'd rather someone be honest up front. I promised myself I wouldn't get excited but I did (my mistake, I know). Anyways he said he is interested, but is leaving on duty for 3 weeks and doesn't know if anything will change in those 3 weeks. He wants to see me again and see where it goes. He wants to avoid jumping in. No sex involved for sure. Does he really want to see what develops or just go on dates until he meets someone else? I told him my fears of abandonment and he told me he did really want to see me. We still message quite a bit, flirty messages, tons of emojis and he calls me darling. Opinions? Btw my old paranoia is getting me, I'm looking at what he doesn't do vs what he does and every little thing makes me think he is disinterested and I'm just ready to bail.
I wouldn't get attached or read too much into your previous dates with him. He's keeping his options open while he's on leave time. You have to decide if you're okay with that or not.
Do people date without any expectations anymore or is that just me?
If you are keeping your options open then you are free to date multiple people as well, right?
So go out with other people and work on your abandonment issues and have fun. No strings attached.
I wouldn't get attached or read too much into your previous dates with him. He's keeping his options open while he's on leave time. You have to decide if you're okay with that or not.
On leave he won't really get to see anyone, as he will be as sea for the most part and he isn't one to just sleep around.
My opinion is that if a guy ever said that (the bolded) to me, it would be the last we'd be speaking.
True, but he didn't say it his friends/co workers said it to him. They told him it was a terrible idea to jump back into a serious relationship right away.
True, but he didn't say it his friends/co workers said it to him. They told him it was a terrible idea to jump back into a serious relationship right away.
Ok, so there you go.
He's told you that he's, at the very most commitment-wise, "shopping around". If you want any more than that, then no, don't see him. Seems pretty simple to me.
Really? You know him THAT well after some online conversations and a couple of dates?
Good luck, then.
He didn't push w/me, so I guess that tells me.
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