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This is why I don’t believe in marriage. I feel that if a relationship runs its course, then the other person should be able to leave. If I am in a relationship with you, I don’t want you to feel trapped or feel like you have to divorce me and take half of my stuff in order to get out. Why does society push people into marriage? It obviously doesn’t work for most people. I don’t know that love can last a lifetime anyway. That’s all fairy tales and crap they should save for the movies. True love doesn’t exist, right ? Or does it? I think most couples that stay together for a long time are just afraid of being alone or they just stay out convenience, not out of love.
This is why I don’t believe in marriage. I feel that if a relationship runs its course...
"Runs its course"? Meaning what?
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.. then the other person should be able to leave. If I am in a relationship with you, I don’t want you to feel trapped...
Marriage isn't a trap. It's a choice and promise NOT to leave just because things get difficult. It is a vow to really really try to work together as a team on problems and to pursue individually whatever helpful solutions will make you healthier.
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.... or feel like you have to divorce me and take half of my stuff in order to get out.
Not every divorce leads to the partner "taking half your stuff." But after being in a legal marriage for a certain amount of time, depending on the state, your spouse is entitled to a certain amount of "stuff."
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Why does society push people into marriage?
Because the theory is that it propels a more stable society. There is actual research on this stuff.
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It obviously doesn’t work for most people.
No, it obviously works for a lot of people.
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I don’t know that love can last a lifetime anyway.
It's sad that you apparently haven't had many family members to bear this out.
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That’s all fairy tales and crap they should save for the movies.
Now you're just typing words that aren't true and don't mean anything.
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True love doesn’t exist, right ? Or does it?
It does. Just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
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I think most couples that stay together for a long time are just afraid of being alone or they just stay out convenience, not out of love.
Without marriages, the social will be in chaos, marriages keep the family together during good and bad times, yes divorce does happened, but still small percentage of over all marriages.
There are also many studies claiming people who are married are happier than people who aren't. It's however, very very important to find someone who's compatible to you. Don't spend more time on buying a TV than picking a spouse.
If you don't believe in it, then don't get married, why care about society people think about you?
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True love does exist and it can last a lifetime.
But s**t also happens.
That last line is why I will not entertain or consider marriage.
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Without marriages, the social will be in chaos, marriages keep the family together during good and bad times, yes divorce does happened, but still small percentage of over all marriages.
There are also many studies claiming people who are married are happier than people who aren't. It's however, very very important to find someone who's compatible to you. Don't spend more time on buying a TV than picking a spouse.
If you don't believe in it, then don't get married, why care about society people think about you?
I don't consider 30-40% of marriages ending in divorce small but that's just me. People ain't loyal today.
This is why I don’t believe in marriage. I feel that if a relationship runs its course, then the other person should be able to leave. If I am in a relationship with you, I don’t want you to feel trapped or feel like you have to divorce me and take half of my stuff in order to get out. Why does society push people into marriage? It obviously doesn’t work for most people. I don’t know that love can last a lifetime anyway. That’s all fairy tales and crap they should save for the movies. True love doesn’t exist, right ? Or does it? I think most couples that stay together for a long time are just afraid of being alone or they just stay out convenience, not out of love.
Says the man who doesn't know anything about love?
You know...plenty of people stay married to the same spouse until they die. Plenty of couples love each other so much, that they sit in nursing homes together holding hands.
The reason society pushes marriage is because studies have shown that marriage is good and healthy for most people.
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