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This except for , he didn't 'go silent. He said he ( or she)was going to be tied up all week/weekend and it is just Monday.
She sent him her number several days ago with no response. If you ask someone out on a date for the first time, you should at least be able to take a moment out of your busy schedule, to answer the text and confirm the date.
To me, ignoring the text and leaving her hanging for several days is going silent. YMMV.
She sent him her number several days ago with no response. If you ask someone out on a date for the first time, you should at least be able to take a moment out of your busy schedule, to answer the text and confirm the date.
To me, ignoring the text and leaving her hanging for several days is going silent. YMMV.
See, I pretty much agree with you. I didn't expect to hear from him much last week but I was hoping he'd be more communicative over the weekend, but then I did tell him I'd be tied up over the weekend and I was, for the most part. However he did get back with me today and change the date to Wednesday. What now? Is this still considered silent? I mean, I do get the impression that he's not all that excited but we haven't talked much either--I'm thinking I may just give this one date but if he still seems uninterested, I'm outta there. I half expect he's hoping for sex to fall into his lap but that won't happen. I think his excuse was odd too--said his work schedule changed--what 60 yo man works evenings? It gets stranger and stranger but my curiosity is up.
See, I pretty much agree with you. I didn't expect to hear from him much last week but I was hoping he'd be more communicative over the weekend, but then I did tell him I'd be tied up over the weekend and I was, for the most part. However he did get back with me today and change the date to Wednesday. What now? Is this still considered silent? I mean, I do get the impression that he's not all that excited but we haven't talked much either--I'm thinking I may just give this one date but if he still seems uninterested, I'm outta there. I half expect he's hoping for sex to fall into his lap but that won't happen. I think his excuse was odd too--said his work schedule changed--what 60 yo man works evenings? It gets stranger and stranger but my curiosity is up.
For me, taking this whole weird situation into account, if I was REALLY interested in him, I might give him a chance/one date and see how it goes. However, if I was only casually interested, I'd probably decline and move on.
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For me, taking this whole weird situation into account, if I was REALLY interested in him, I might give him a chance/one date and see how it goes. However, if I was only casually interested, I'd probably decline and move on.
Funny, I was just considering the answer to this question.
The things that make me want to go out with him: He's funny, he's extremely good looking, he seems to have enough money to do what he wants to do, and I've heard that he's highly intelligent. So far in the little time I've spent with him, conversation seems to flow pretty easily and when we talk it's like we're co-conspirators, if that makes sense. Oh, and slim pickins around here.
The things that give me pause: his interest seems pretty lightweight, he comes from a large family with 6 sibs and all the nieces and nephews and they celebrate every darn thing and I have to wonder how many b-day parties I'd be obligated to attend, the brother that's kind of creepy (did I mention that one time the brother told me that he loves sex and doesn't even need viagra?). My date looks and seems too good to be true (for me anyway). I mean, I'm attractive for my age I think but he tends to date women who are more polished than me. I'm feminine but not high maintenance--have never had a manicure and never wear nail polish or high heels but the women he dates tend to be that type.
So, the date finally did contact me today and firmed up plans for Wednesday and I guess we're on, unless something too weird for words comes up to stop it. I don't want to waste gas but maybe I'll have an interesting story to come back and tell. It's one date--what could go wrong? LOL
Update: decided to stay home. He never did text so I texted him yesterday to say hello but it took him hours to get back to me. I cancelled. The text was a test after all and I doubt he is crying his eyes out over me.
One thing I have to wonder though is why a man would ask someone out that he's not all that interested in. It's not like I have a rep for letting men get lucky, which is the only reason I can think of that he would've invited me out. The whole thing was done via messenger or text too. . . eh. I'm glad I didn't go.
OK, so I found out a few more things about this situation and I'm ever so thankful I didn't make that date. Turns out that the first man who asked me out spent 5 years in prison for embezzling company funds and that explains why he works two jobs now and one of them is at Sam's Club. Nowadays he takes women out for dates and tries to talk them into "investing" their life savings in his company. I would have been hell fire mad if I'd gone on that date and he tried that one on me!
His brother, the second one who asked me out, is in kahoots with him and started the dance school so they could both meet a lot of women. They are both handsome men and social so it's easy for either of them to get dates.
This whole situation explains so much of what was bothering me about this, like why date #1 is supposedly an investment genius but works at Sam's, and why date #2 is such a bad dancer but started a dance school. Stay tuned for more installments as I learn them. LOL, friends keep telling me I should write a book.
OK, so I found out a few more things about this situation and I'm ever so thankful I didn't make that date. Turns out that the first man who asked me out spent 5 years in prison for embezzling company funds and that explains why he works two jobs now and one of them is at Sam's Club. Nowadays he takes women out for dates and tries to talk them into "investing" their life savings in his company. I would have been hell fire mad if I'd gone on that date and he tried that one on me!
His brother, the second one who asked me out, is in kahoots with him and started the dance school so they could both meet a lot of women. They are both handsome men and social so it's easy for either of them to get dates.
This whole situation explains so much of what was bothering me about this, like why date #1 is supposedly an investment genius but works at Sam's, and why date #2 is such a bad dancer but started a dance school. Stay tuned for more installments as I learn them. LOL, friends keep telling me I should write a book.
Lord a'mighty. SOOOOOOO sketchy!!!!
Thank goodness you listened to your instincts!!
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). My date looks and seems too good to be true (for me anyway). I mean, I'm attractive for my age I think but he tends to date women who are more polished than me. I'm feminine but not high maintenance--have never had a manicure and never wear nail polish or high heels but the women he dates tend to be that type. 
