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Did someone really call you "half a man," or is that a perception you picked up of a general attitude?
If they did, that's horrible, and better that you know to stay away from someone who would think that.
While the "half a man" insult is bad I've had women tell me I shouldn't be alive because of my disability. By being alive, they say, I'm taking away valuable resources such as food, medicine and water from "more deserving" people (in other words non-disabled people). I'm a drain on society, or so I've been told.
While the "half a man" insult is bad I've had women tell me I shouldn't be alive because of my disability. By being alive, they say, I'm taking away valuable resources such as food, medicine and water from "more deserving" people (in other words non-disabled people). I'm a drain on society, or so I've been told.
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Originally Posted by Stockyman
To me that's like saying you might as well date someone broke and unemployed because no job is secure and we can all lose our jobs.
Or date a much older person because we all become old and lose our looks.
Or why bother dating people we are physically attracted to because don't we all eventually lose our looks?
Why bother having any preferences since we all get old, lose our looks, no job is secure, and our health is never guaranteed?
I fully agree with this. I'm not going to apologize for a second for refusing to date a woman in a wheelchair. It is my preference to date someone with the ability to walk like I have.
I fully agree with this. I'm not going to apologize for a second for refusing to date a woman in a wheelchair. It is my preference to date someone with the ability to walk like I have.
What would you do if you got with a person of your preference, as you have described above... then they lost the ability to walk, years later?
What would you do if you got with a person of your preference, as you have described above... then they lost the ability to walk, years later?
Just wondering...
But if something happens to someone you're already involved with and whom you care about, that's different. You'd be committed and you'd be there in any way you can.
It does feel different for an able-bodied person to look at someone in a wheelchair as a potential romantic interest and think, "how would we get around? Travel? Have sex? How would this work? He wouldn't be able to come to my house because of the stairs..." I don't think that's inherently shallow and superficial.
But if something happens to someone you're already involved with and whom you care about, that's different. You'd be committed and you'd be there in any way you can.
It does feel different for an able-bodied person to look at someone in a wheelchair and think, "how would we get around? Travel? Have sex? How would this work? He wouldn't be able to come to my house because of the stairs..." I don't think that's inherently shallow and superficial.
For the bold part: you would think/hope so. But I personally know a friend from school, who split up from her husband when he got MS. Some people can't deal with things like that, it seems...
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