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It just sucks because I was really looking forward to this trip next weekend and this summer and will be devastated if I don't go anymore.
FWIW, it sounds like you're more upset about (possibly) not going on these trips rather than your relationship (possibly) ending. For any future trips, you should seriously consider getting the "cancel for any reason" travel insurance policy.
Sometimes people just need alone time, and sounds like he has told you that. I need quite a bit of alone time, it's nothing to do with home much I love my husband. And if he does have depression, that is a different issue that he needs to deal with, you can't fix it for him.
Also, stop thinking about the trips so much. If you want to go away so badly, just go. Go alone or with friends. I would never rely on a guy if I wanted to go away, I would just go!!!!!!
. Its just been my numerous first-hand experience when someones says "I need time to think' the relationship is in jeopardy. In my previous relationships, " I need time to think" has always been "give time to spend time with someone else and I'll get back to you".
I agree, that no one should be checking phones. An honest conversation, first and foremost. And if she thinks hes lying, then check his phone, Lol.
A lot of people DO require "down time" - I'm one of them. He says it's not you, take him at his word and stop borrowing trouble. And leave him alone until he reaches back out.
FWIW, it sounds like you're more upset about (possibly) not going on these trips rather than your relationship (possibly) ending. For any future trips, you should seriously consider getting the "cancel for any reason" travel insurance policy.
Yeah I realize after posting this that is how it came off... I am 10000% more worried about my relationship. My emotions and anxiety were just running really high.
I just don't, personally, think it is fair for him to not talk all day and then text me basically a cliff-hanger "need some time to think" and then not respond when I say "think about what?"... Cause he's going to know that I am obviously assuming the worst.
When him and I first broke up in March 2013 (got back together this past November/December 2016), for the entire month before the official break up, it just wasn't good. He was kind of cold, not touchy feely, and it was obvious it was ending. There was a sort-of 'build up' to the break up.. That's why this is confusing to me... Why go from having an amazing time together and talking about going back to that same destination this summer, to literally the next day acting off and saying he just wants to be alone.
I am so crazy about him and love him, which is why deep down I am worried that this is gonna be the end.
A lot of people DO require "down time" - I'm one of them. He says it's not you, take him at his word and stop borrowing trouble. And leave him alone until he reaches back out.
I know. And he never beats around the bush or anything and always says exactly what he means. So I don't understand why this time feels different... It's like I know he said that he isn't mad or anything, but I'm still getting really anxious
I know. And he never beats around the bush or anything and always says exactly what he means. So I don't understand why this time feels different... It's like I know he said that he isn't mad or anything, but I'm still getting really anxious
It is a total normal feeling. Of course you worry when he withdraws and acts weird.
Wait it out. Once he feels better, address the issue. Tell him how it makes you feel and that it is okay for him to withdraw sometimes, but you need to feel secure in your relationship and need to know it has absolutely nothing to do with you.
I think you need to just let this be. You need to realize, if he wants it over, there is NOTHING you can do about it. NOTHING. If he is saying he needs time alone right now, take it for his word. If something happens down the line and it is over. It will hurt. You will be sad. But you will be ok. Remember that rather than living in fear and getting all worked up like this.
See some friends, do your own hobbies, stop focusing so much on this.
Also, you just went on a trip and spend all your time together. Why would he not want some alone time after that? When I go away with someone, I am the same. It doesn't mean anything, it just means I like time alone to do my own things after spending 24/7 with someone on a trip.
I know. And he never beats around the bush or anything and always says exactly what he means. So I don't understand why this time feels different... It's like I know he said that he isn't mad or anything, but I'm still getting really anxious
Clean out a closet and detail your car. Then go shoe shopping.
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. Its just been my numerous first-hand experience when someones says "I need time to think' the relationship is in jeopardy. In my previous relationships, " I need time to think" has always been "give time to spend time with someone else and I'll get back to you". 
