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First... you need to define what "settle" means to you (or anyone reading)...
and recognize that there is a continuum of choice and preference points...
depending on all manner of both objective and subjective criteria each might choose to use.
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Options dry up, it's a reality.
I don't believe that's true.
The options we have may change, will change almost by necessity, but they don't disappear.
And some specific ideal "choice" could disappear but odds are that one never existed for you to begin with.
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Originally Posted by back2MD
Would you date a alpha women, husky voice, masculine and Amazon stature
Just curious
No. I have been looking pretty hard but I'd rather be alone than with the wrong man and I'm no longer of child bearing age.
I am of child bearing age (can't have kids though), but I too rather be alone than with the wrong man. Been there, done that, got the hat and it's not worth it. Being alone is much, much better.
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Originally Posted by elnina
Options never dry out! You are giving up...
Pretty much. There are billions of people on this planet. If you can't find a mate, it's not due to lack of options. Or you have impossibly high standards/are too picky. That doesn't mean it's easy to find someone, far from it. It just means there are multiple matches out there for you and saying there are none is defeatist.
Edited to add, I think maybe what most people mean when they say "there is no one out there for me" is "I've given up spending the energy to find someone for me." People are loath to say they give up, so the pass blame. Not sure why. There is nothing wrong with putting energy into pursuits other than finding a mate.
Last edited by BellaLind; 05-03-2017 at 06:17 AM..
I agree with some of the other posters, options will always be there, maybe not as soon as you want them, but they will be there. And settling in many cases is just delaying the inevitable of being back by yourself again. Never settle, it won't make you happy, and more importantly it's not fair to your partner who thinks you actually want to be with them.
In my teens and 20's, men would literally line up to date me. My early 30's brought on a new challenge of me having to actually look for men. Now in my late 30's, I can look and look and not find anyone to date for a year.
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