Girl I like has a douche bag boyfriend

[AlfredB1979]

Originally Posted by RandomDude20

Did I kinda sound like a jerk? honestly not really, could've sounded much worse believe me. But did I sound like someone who needs her? no. life goes on and I am going after what I want in life, no more stupid games like you said.

Actually, your posts makes you sound kind of needy, but at least you laid off before the boyfriend caved your cranium in.

As tough as it is for typical guys, deal with people who like you in return.

I once dated a coworker who claimed her boyfriend left her for a lesbian. Like you, I would have figured the guy to be scum, but another 18 years later, me thinks he knew something that I didn't and I can't blame him.

Anyway, don't do fix it projects with relationships. Women don't do this relationship thing logically all that often, so don't get sucked into these kinds of time waster traps.

I ain't reading the nearly 160 posts between your opening post and now, so I am probably regurgitating what the rest of our wise posters have said.

Originally Posted by RandomDude20

The only reason I ignored the fact she has a boyfriend is because he is not a very great person and treats her pretty horribly.

That's not your decision to make for her. She's an adult and she can make her own dating decisions, whether or not you like them.

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by AlfredB1979

Actually, your posts makes you sound kind of needy, but at least you laid off before the boyfriend caved your cranium in.

As tough as it is for typical guys, deal with people who like you in return.

I once dated a coworker who claimed her boyfriend left her for a lesbian. Like you, I would have figured the guy to be scum, but another 18 years later, me thinks he knew something that I didn't and I can't blame him.

Anyway, don't do fix it projects with relationships. Women don't do this relationship thing logically all that often, so don't get sucked into these kinds of time waster traps.

I ain't reading the nearly 160 posts between your opening post and now, so I am probably regurgitating what the rest of our wise posters have said.





That's not your decision to make for her. She's an adult and she can make her own dating decisions, whether or not you like them.

You made some very important points.

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by RandomDude20

already been done, no point in cutting off contact. I am just not giving her any of my time. I ended things in an orderly fashion rather than a bitter F off fashion. I said "look I am not doing this friend crap anymore, I want to be more than friends and I am not going to do this **** anymore. if things don't work out with your bf, then feel free to shoot me a text, You're a great girl, but I'm just not going to do this anymore.". Did I kinda sound like a jerk? honestly not really, could've sounded much worse believe me. But did I sound like someone who needs her? no. life goes on and I am going after what I want in life, no more stupid games like you said.

With my friend, I'm keeping her around as a friend. I'm just looking elsewhere for a relationship.

[RandomDude20]

Originally Posted by AlfredB1979

Actually, your posts makes you sound kind of needy, but at least you laid off before the boyfriend caved your cranium in.

As tough as it is for typical guys, deal with people who like you in return.





That's not your decision to make for her. She's an adult and she can make her own dating decisions, whether or not you like them.

I would love to see him try. Let alone fly down from CA (not like he has the money anyway). The only thing that guy will do is get angry at me and yell like the little boy that he is or yell at his gf to take care of his problems for him.