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I'm a woman and I don't get why some women feel like their bf needs to buy them things. Unless you're a housewife and don't have a job, I don't feel like anybody owes you anything. Don't get me wrong, I love having people give me things too, but I don't expect them to. In three days I have heard two women complain about their bf spending their money on their hobbies and not on them. I have dated people who seemed stingy, they also seemed like aholes most of the time, so I eventually left them. When women complain about their bf not giving them things, it makes me think the relationship is probably going to end soon because someone doesn't feel satisfied. Is it possible that maybe the bfs are lacking in other ways? Like if the guy was thoughtful in other ways that didn't involve money, would the women be complaining?
I'm a woman and I don't get why some women feel like their bf needs to buy them things. Unless you're a housewife and don't have a job, I don't feel like anybody owes you anything. Don't get me wrong, I love having people give me things too, but I don't expect them to. In three days I have heard two women complain about their bf spending their money on their hobbies and not on them. I have dated people who seemed stingy, they also seemed like aholes most of the time, so I eventually left them. When women complain about their bf not giving them things, it makes me think the relationship is probably going to end soon because someone doesn't feel satisfied. Is it possible that maybe the bfs are lacking in other ways? Like if the guy was thoughtful in other ways that didn't involve money, would the women be complaining?
"Welcome to the me-me entitlement."
Of course there are exceptions.
There's more to your first sentence that many men reading your post may think about saying with justification which I won't that'll turn this thread upside down.
We had one post here not long ago, complaining that her boyfriend had totally ignored Valentine's Day, and she was a bit put off. When asked what she'd planned for him and if she'd cancelled those plans in lieu of his disregard of that day--they weren't dating for long, as I recall--she stated that it had never occurred to her to do a single thing for him. Nothing at all. Yet she sat there silently disappointed that he'd disregarded it, as well.
Some men enjoy giving gifts. That is their love language. Some women enjoy doing their man's laundry and cleaning his apartment (not me!) That is their love language. As long as it's a mutual understanding, it's just how people are I suppose.
I'm a woman and I don't get why some women feel like their bf needs to buy them things. Unless you're a housewife and don't have a job, I don't feel like anybody owes you anything. Don't get me wrong, I love having people give me things too, but I don't expect them to. In three days I have heard two women complain about their bf spending their money on their hobbies and not on them. I have dated people who seemed stingy, they also seemed like aholes most of the time, so I eventually left them. When women complain about their bf not giving them things, it makes me think the relationship is probably going to end soon because someone doesn't feel satisfied. Is it possible that maybe the bfs are lacking in other ways? Like if the guy was thoughtful in other ways that didn't involve money, would the women be complaining?
Perhaps the two women are more aggrieved that their BF's are putting more time and energy into their hobbies rather than with them instead of the actual money side of things?.
I've not really known many women hardly any infact that expects things in an entitled manner but more the gestures/gifts/treats etc that conventionally come with dating i.e. Romantic gifts, liking their SOs to be spontaneous and thoughtful etc which don't forget works both ways
With that in mind I absolutely LOVE buying gifts, weekends away, treating her and not because I feel I have to but because I genuinely want to.
Like most gifts it not the money value as such but the thought behind it that counts and knowing if she's upset, angry, wants something etc and doing something for her that will cheer her up, make her happy and so on
I'm a woman and I don't get why some women feel like their bf needs to buy them things. Unless you're a housewife and don't have a job, I don't feel like anybody owes you anything. Don't get me wrong, I love having people give me things too, but I don't expect them to. In three days I have heard two women complain about their bf spending their money on their hobbies and not on them. I have dated people who seemed stingy, they also seemed like aholes most of the time, so I eventually left them. When women complain about their bf not giving them things, it makes me think the relationship is probably going to end soon because someone doesn't feel satisfied. Is it possible that maybe the bfs are lacking in other ways? Like if the guy was thoughtful in other ways that didn't involve money, would the women be complaining?
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I'm a woman and I don't get why some women feel like their bf needs to buy them things. Unless you're a housewife and don't have a job, I don't feel like anybody owes you anything. Don't get me wrong, I love having people give me things too, but I don't expect them to. In three days I have heard two women complain about their bf spending their money on their hobbies and not on them. I have dated people who seemed stingy, they also seemed like aholes most of the time, so I eventually left them. When women complain about their bf not giving them things, it makes me think the relationship is probably going to end soon because someone doesn't feel satisfied. Is it possible that maybe the bfs are lacking in other ways? Like if the guy was thoughtful in other ways that didn't involve money, would the women be complaining?
Because the boyfriends put up with it.
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