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If he is only making $1000/mo, then he is working part time. He has time to work a part time job and unemployment is low, so he just doesn't want to work full time (part time freelance + part time job). The resentment is understandable. You work more than full time and he's fine with letting you do that, while he is semi-unemployed by choice. I don't see how you can move forward in the relationship, because he chooses not take on the responsibilities of an adult. At minimum, you should tell him you want to take a break from the relationship for a couple months, and see if he is willing to step up and carry his own weight. If not, then find someone else.
OP, you haven't answered the question about what your options are. Could you move in with parents for your law studies? I'm afraid that expecting your bf to help pay the bills would end in disaster. You don't need a financial crisis perhaps requiring a relocation in the middle of your law studies. Or would he be open to getting a front desk job at a hotel, and keeping it for 3 years?
I just want everyone in here advocating for the OP to remember this thread next time a guy comes in here with the same situation except the girl is mooching. "Yeah but even without children, a sahw is a full time job." The hypocrite level is very high in these threads.
Reality Check: Women typically end up resenting men who earn less than them. It's evolutionary biology. Feminism hasn't erased it.
I noticed my dating options increased significantly when I started making good money.
So I totally understand why you don't want to date a broke man. Just remember that many successful men were once broke. There are a lot of rich and famous men who talked about being broke and losing women because of it. I bet those women are kicking themselves now.
But that's the dilemma. You can't see the future and the clock is ticking. A guy who is a loser today might stay a loser for life. Or maybe not. There is no way to know. You just have to roll the dice and hope you make the right decision. Good luck.
I noticed my dating options increased significantly when I started making good money.
So I totally understand why you don't want to date a broke man. Just remember that many successful men were once broke. There are a lot of rich and famous men who talked about being broke and losing women because of it. I bet those women are kicking themselves now.
But that's the dilemma. You can't see the future and the clock is ticking. A guy who is a loser today might stay a loser for life. Or maybe not. There is no way to know. You just have to roll the dice and hope you make the right decision. Good luck.
That's true, but at 30 they weren't sitting on there ass most of the day for the last 3 years doing nothing. This guy has nothing in the works to make him a successful guy in a few years.
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