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no my depression has made it more difficult for me to approach women, that doesn't mean impossible, the girls I dated I usually met through friends thus making the approach easier. just because someone has depression doesn't mean they're incapable of doing something it just makes most things more difficult.
depression is a very complex thing.
and no my depression had nothing to do with me not going all the way with those girls. that was on them, they didn't want to go farther because they had their own issues.
You know people keep trying to paint my situation or look at it like it's simple but it's not. I didn't sleep with the girls I could have because one I didn't want to hurt her feelings and wasn't physically attracted to her. I'm sorry that I didn't want to bang the first person that came along and offered (call me old fashioned but I want to do it on my own terms with a person I really want to sleep with). and you know what I'm kinda proud of that.
and I've had some bad luck with the girlfriends I've had, they both had hang ups that kept it from going all the way, you can call me a liar or just not believe me, but that's the god's honest truth.
and as for those who say I should get a hooker to "get it over with" I don't want to "Get it over with" it's not a chore is something I want to enjoy and feel good about, and buying a hooker would give me neither of those satisfactions so thank you but no thank you. now please stop suggesting it.
I'm sorry that I have standards of wanting to at least be attracted to people I sleep with, and that I have the moral fiber to not use someone who has feelings for me and considers me a friend. but it seems like I'm being ridiculed for that.
Does it frustrate me that I'm still a virgin to the point where sometimes I need to vent about it? yeah it does
Do I think that I'm less of a person because of it? Hell no and if you do, good for you I really don't care
Nobody is knocking you for being a virgin and wanting to have sex with someone you're attracted to, but what is throwing a lot of people off is that you keep complaining about a situation you chose for yourself.
You either have to suck it up and deal with it or change.
well to be honest, just getting it over with using an escort may actually help him a lot in regards to his depression and self confidence. But he ruled that out, which is his choice.
On the bright side, not having to worry about surprise pregnancies is a plus.
Nobody is knocking you for being a virgin and wanting to have sex with someone you're attracted to, but what is throwing a lot of people off is that you keep complaining about a situation you chose for yourself.
You either have to suck it up and deal with it or change.
What else do you want to hear?
Because we're not going to lie to you.
*shrugs*
I don't want people to lie to me, but saying I chose this situation is a bit of a misconception, other than one girl who I wasn't attracted to I haven't had much opportunity. I kinda figured it would have happened with someone whom there was mutual attraction with by now but it just hasn't, and yeah I have trouble approaching women, it doesn't mean I don't I'm just not super successful with it. so it's really not a choice
no my depression has made it more difficult for me to approach women, that doesn't mean impossible, the girls I dated I usually met through friends thus making the approach easier. just because someone has depression doesn't mean they're incapable of doing something it just makes most things more difficult.
depression is a very complex thing.
and no my depression had nothing to do with me not going all the way with those girls. that was on them, they didn't want to go farther because they had their own issues.
You know people keep trying to paint my situation or look at it like it's simple but it's not. I didn't sleep with the girls I could have because one I didn't want to hurt her feelings and wasn't physically attracted to her. I'm sorry that I didn't want to bang the first person that came along and offered (call me old fashioned but I want to do it on my own terms with a person I really want to sleep with). and you know what I'm kinda proud of that.
and I've had some bad luck with the girlfriends I've had, they both had hang ups that kept it from going all the way, you can call me a liar or just not believe me, but that's the god's honest truth.
and as for those who say I should get a hooker to "get it over with" I don't want to "Get it over with" it's not a chore is something I want to enjoy and feel good about, and buying a hooker would give me neither of those satisfactions so thank you but no thank you. now please stop suggesting it.
I'm sorry that I have standards of wanting to at least be attracted to people I sleep with, and that I have the moral fiber to not use someone who has feelings for me and considers me a friend. but it seems like I'm being ridiculed for that.
Does it frustrate me that I'm still a virgin to the point where sometimes I need to vent about it? yeah it does
Do I think that I'm less of a person because of it? Hell no and if you do, good for you I really don't care
So, what steps are you taking again to overcome your depression?
Go to the bunny ranch or something like that so you can get it over with and not be so wrapped up in the fact that you haven't done it. Once that's over, maybe you can chill.
man, my take on things, men are all virgins, until they get stuffed . Why are you saving yourself for, the perfect girl? this is just nuts, just do it and get the experience. they all look the same upside down,is what my gramps used to say.
Practice your stroke, and perfect it for that lady that is a keeper. you want to make sure your stroke is grade A for the keeper, so she will keep coming back for more. Not taking a dip in the fountain is strange for a person your age, and not really a good thing. Men go crazy for virgins, not realizing the inexperience can be very frustrating when trying to get some. on the other hand, women expect their man knows there way around the bedroom. A women may look at a virgin male as a bad thing, imho.
i would suggest you re evaluate why you have not taken it to the sexual intercourse part. I would be keeled over turning blue if I have been waiting for so long.
I actually think its AWESOME youre a virgin. Really, id want you to date one of my daughters. You would respect her, get to know her- not only be after her to get in her pants.
My BFF is 31 and has never kissed a boy. I dont look down on her for it.
Go to the bunny ranch or something like that so you can get it over with and not be so wrapped up in the fact that you haven't done it. Once that's over, maybe you can chill.
The moonlight bunny ranch is fun! Maybe he can go, and then next time bring a date.
OP - are you attracted to men? Please no offense but could that be your issue here?
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