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Not a man, but telling him to just go by himself and hanging up on him screams drama-queen.
Now, simply asking him "Hey, what happened to looking at hotels in City X like you said?" was a perfectly legitimate question. If he got snippy about being asked to do WHAT HE VOLUNTEERED TO DO, then he's a bit of a jerk.
Apologize for your reaction, but don't let him off the hook for what he said he would do.
Ok I relent. If he had kept his word, he wouldn't have gotten hung up on.
I think he would've gotten that sooner or later anyway.
I still don't call anyone back who hangs up on me though.
My bf and I planned on going to X city. He knows its my favorite city in the world. He is an audio engineer and he happened to get called for a project tomorrow afternoon. The city where he got called to go work is about three hours away from where we live. I was excited when he asked me to come along and spend the night and next day in this romantic city. Today he had a job two hours away and came home at 8:30 p.m. He promised me we would take a look at hotels when he returned home. When he got home he went out with his male friends instead for a beer. I waited for him all day to look up hotels and I am angry because most hotels are booked in the city center! I feel he doesn't care about this trip. I feel he left me hanging. I feel so angry. When he called me back (he was already at the pub with his friends) I told him I was angry and he should go by himself and I hung up. Did I overreact? Should I have been supportive and understood he was tired and was just wanting to relax? Its almost midnight here and he said he will take a look when he gets home! Part of me feels embarrassed to act like a teenager (I am not a teen lol we are way older) but part of me really feels like he is selfish.
Any advice? Should I go on this trip? Was I right on being angry?
Ok I'll break it down for you from a guys POV.
I am guessing he worked from at least 8 am to 8:30 PM. 12 hour day, hitting it hard, doing good work, bringing home the bacon for the wife, kicking butt at doing guy things. He went out with the bros for a nice cold beer to chill and relax after a long hard days of work. During the guys night out he calls up his girl and she goes off on him and hangs up.
Well from a guy that was a negative experience. Women are supposed to be strong, independent, don't need a man right? Is there any reason why you couldn't look up a motel yourself? Why did you need him to do it? Why couldn't you do it yourself? The trip was important to you right?
Ok from your view, did he know the trip was important to you?. If he knew the trip was important to you he probably should have taken a few extra steps to make sure things were taken care of.
From his and a man's POV. Men like to feel needed by a woman. We like to do things and be the hero for the woman that we love. Very importantly we need to feel APPRECIATED for the things that we do for you.
But we also don't like a woman that is completely helpless and needs us to do everything for her.
There's not enough information here for me to say. Ultimately, the most important thing is that you are able to get accommodations for your trip. How far in the future is the trip? If it's close by and him not taking action until later cost you the ability to get a room, then no, you didn't overreact. If it's still the pretty distant future, then yes, you overreacted, because it's unlikely that the few hours he spent grabbing a beer with his friends is what caused you to miss out. After all, he said he would look at hotels once he got back - not that he would do it FIRST thing when he got back.
Also, who's paying for the trip? If he's paying for everything, I would let him do it the way he wants, on his own time.
There's not enough information here for me to say. Ultimately, the most important thing is that you are able to get accommodations for your trip. How far in the future is the trip? If it's close by and him not taking action until later cost you the ability to get a room, then no, you didn't overreact. If it's still the pretty distant future, then yes, you overreacted, because it's unlikely that the few hours he spent grabbing a beer with his friends is what caused you to miss out. After all, he said he would look at hotels once he got back - not that he would do it FIRST thing when he got back.
Also, who's paying for the trip? If he's paying for everything, I would let him do it the way he wants, on his own time.
She said in the very first couple sentences of her OP post that the trip was the next day.
She also said in the first couple sentences of her OP post that he just got assigned that day the project for the next day in the city she wished to visit with him.
"My bf and I planned on going to X city. He knows its my favorite city in the world. He is an audio engineer and he happened to get called for a project tomorrow afternoon. The city where he got called to go work is about three hours away from where we live."
Last edited by matisse12; 07-01-2017 at 02:38 AM..
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