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You're seriously overthinking this, OP. I get that you want to avoid running into the same situation that you were in with your ex-husband, but not every genuine gesture or show of interest warrants second-guessing. Not everything is a potential orange or red flag. This thread, coupled with your others, sounds like you're not quite ready to date again if every little thing leads to over-analyzing and second-guessing. Just relax.
I've had men who were genuinely interested in me check out things that I was interested in or passionate about. I introduced one guy I dated to one of my favorite music genres. He went out and bought a few scores that really resonated with him. Two years later I received an e-mail thanking me for introducing him to his new passion. He quit his job to work on composing and producing music. The point is, some people are genuine, solid people who just may be interested in you or the things you're into without it leading to an unhealthy fixation or interest in you. Sharing can be cool and fun. It can be a fantastic way to connect with others if you let it.
You're seriously overthinking this, OP. I get that you want to avoid running into the same situation that you were in with your ex-husband, but not every genuine gesture or show of interest warrants second-guessing. Not everything is a potential orange or red flag. This thread, coupled with your others, sounds like you're not quite ready to date again if every little thing leads to over-analyzing and second-guessing. Just relax.
I've had men who were genuinely interested in me check out things that I was interested in or passionate about. I introduced one guy I dated to one of my favorite music genres. He went out and bought a few scores that really resonated with him. Two years later I received an e-mail thanking me for introducing him to his new passion. He quit his job to work on composing and producing music. The point is, some people are genuine, solid people who just may be interested in you or the things you're into without it leading to an unhealthy fixation or interest in you. Sharing can be cool and fun. It can be a fantastic way to connect with others if you let it.
I think is hard for OP to relax after her horrible experience with her ex husband. If the guy is serious, he should try to understand and put himself in the situation like OP.
I think is hard for OP to relax after her horrible experience with her ex husband. If the guy is serious, he should try to understand and put himself in the situation like OP.
Then honestly? She shouldn't be dating yet.
When I was dating wanting to see each other a lot was a good sign to me. If someone only wanted to see me once a week I would think they weren't very interested.
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When I was dating wanting to see each other a lot was a good sign to me. If someone only wanted to see me once a week I would think they weren't very interested.
Do people even have time to go out more than once a week? I'm being serious. By the time I take a class, work, and do my regular life, there's usually only a day or two.
You're seriously overthinking this, OP. I get that you want to avoid running into the same situation that you were in with your ex-husband, but not every genuine gesture or show of interest warrants second-guessing. Not everything is a potential orange or red flag. This thread, coupled with your others, sounds like you're not quite ready to date again if every little thing leads to over-analyzing and second-guessing. Just relax.
I've had men who were genuinely interested in me check out things that I was interested in or passionate about. I introduced one guy I dated to one of my favorite music genres. He went out and bought a few scores that really resonated with him. Two years later I received an e-mail thanking me for introducing him to his new passion. He quit his job to work on composing and producing music. The point is, some people are genuine, solid people who just may be interested in you or the things you're into without it leading to an unhealthy fixation or interest in you. Sharing can be cool and fun. It can be a fantastic way to connect with others if you let it.
Okay. I think I do need to relax. I will just take things slow. But I tend to overthink so I am probably doing that here.
Do people even have time to go out more than once a week? I'm being serious. By the time I take a class, work, and do my regular life, there's usually only a day or two.
I'm the same way very busy. When I'm dating got to schedule it in.Easier to date in the summer. Fall and winter too busy with sport activities, holidays and school related stuff for my son.
If he never reads anything but Mad Magazine and the sports section, and he devours Don Quixote in three days because you said you liked it, all right, that's bizarre.
On the other hand, if he's a bibliophile who loves the Jazz Age, and decided to read The Great Gatsby because you dropped the fact that you liked it, there's nothing particularly unusual about that.
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