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hi Auraliea
i know what of person he is yes. but i dunno if it'll improve. so so far im jus taking my space and taking care of myself. this may sound dramatic to people but im still dealing with the concussion and i still feel nauseous and i'm still not eating. so i just want to sleep alot. and without overthinking lol
but im still dealing with the concussion and i still feel nauseous and i'm still not eating. so i just want to sleep alot. and without overthinking lol
it's my fault for forgetting to say that i bumped my head on the way down the escalator which is why i started vomiting later on. should add that in my original post. The accident included me falling backwards from an underground escalator as i was coming out the train station. thats why i was re-admitted to hospital. Concussion. sorry about the confusion.
I'm having a dilemma. My boyfriend and i have been going out for over a year. We've had our ups and downs but one thing i've recently noticed is that our smallest arguments turn into him acting like we are breaking up. But the recent situation that's been weighting down on me sooo much i created this account so that i could talk to someone about it. That i feel like its time to take a step back and carry on MY own way is when i had an accident 2 days ago and was admitted to hospital with a sprained ankle.
Bearing in mind, Iam from England London, united kingdom if you havent gotten it by now. The only way i could post on this is if i had an american post code so i just googled one. My friends haven't really been around so im desperate. Plus im doused with painkillers so i'm so down. When i say admitted i mean that the ambulance picked me up from the TFL underground station and rushed me to the hospital where they checked my vitals, did x-rays on my ankle and turns out its sprained.
Hope this makes sense.
We got home and he was behaving like a normal boyfriend would. I couldn't walk myself to my front do so he had to carry me. That shouldn't even be a big deal. Was i supposed to crawl? urhg anyway i fell asleep and when i woke up he tells me he has to leave in 6 minutes because he was meeting his family for Chinese, basically lunch. Didn't even bother telling them he'd stay longer with me to see if I was alright. I was in pretty bad shape because an hour after he left I started vomiting. Had to go back to hospital. The nurse asked me if I could come with someone because I was all alone. Told her there was no one.
Had to ask my neighbour to come with me. Meanwhile my boyfriend was texting me shocked that I had to go back to hospital. Told him the nurse was telling me to come with someone and he said "is there no one you could come with" when he knew I'm the eldest and my other family is outside London. Anyway long story short I was hospitalised again and my neighbour was with me the whole night. He never came to visit me or stay up to see how I was doing. Got home at 10 am and wake up to see "how you feeling". He didn't call me once to actually ask how I was.
I knew he was going away for a spa day for his birthday. His birthday was the 23rd. His parents booked him a spa getaway.. But he had told me he was going Thursday to Friday. Apparently he told me the wrong dates because he left that Tuesday morning and didn't even bother saying he was off. I found out through his snap that he was away. It wasn't even the problem he was away. It was that he didn't tell me bye and as ill as Iam.
Me and my neighbour We are not THAT close. We've lived in the same building for years though went to the same secondary school. She's the only one that was close enough. It's just disappointing that I had no one that I considered family to help me go through it. None of my friends have stopped at my hous ever since they found out I had the accident either. and every since then i've just been very passive with him and not making an effort to speak to him...which means we don't talk. I havent talked to him since the day of the accident don't get me wrong im glad hes having a spa break. I'm just confused as to why that family dinner outing was so important for him to got that he couldnt' look after someone he says he loves. Also im very upset at the fact that it's just me and my mum and she wasn't there because she had to work a night shift, so i had to go through that whole ordeal overnight at the hospital with no one i considered family with me. To check if i got home ok. My mom did keep in contact with me every hour.
Basically want to know if im over thinking it or am i right to be upset?
advice anyone? thanks v much.
sorry to ad this later on guys. i wanted to be short in the OP but that didn't work. The accident was in underground train station. I was going up the escalator as woman struggled with her suitcase. she ended falling backwards on me and her husband who was behind her toppled on me too. It was a long way down. Thats how i got the sprained ankle AND the concussion. Thats why i went back to hospital. because i kept vomiting. I was told that some symptoms of accidents dont appear until later on sometimes. Hope this makes sense and helps.
@old_cold
sorry i do understand my wording may not have made sense to you considering english people write differently. but yes i do agree with you. he recently came back home today and just told me he was home via text. still no calls. i eventually asked him if he could talk and THAT's he called me. Took a while for me to tell him why i was upset. Only for him to say that yes he should of stayed with me, but he assumed i was fine since i could move about ( i hadn't even moved from the bed when he left my house so im not sure where he got that idea form, i could barely stand up without feeling nauseous) and thought he had told me he was supposed to leave for his spa week in the morning. So to him, all this came down to him giving me the wrong dates for his spa trip and him assuming i was fine a few hours after falling from an escalator. 'he said it was his bad.
I was left feeling very unsatisfied with his responses because he was acting very standoff -ish and very cold and dismissive. Needless to say im taking some space from him. At least he now knows why if don't reach out to him as enthusiastically as i once did.
From what you've shared, he doesn't seem to be terribly concerned about you. I would definitely see that as his loss of interest in the relationship. The question is, do you feel you deserve to be treated better than how he treated you? Maybe that's the conversation you need to have with him, provided he is still interested in you at this point.
Based on what you've shared about being so emotional, and that you're accused of being into drama, let me address this. You said that people ask about how you are doing, and then they don't like your answers (I'm paraphrasing here). In my experience, people don't like to stick around friends who feel like a chore.
It isn't wrong to share complaints or negative experiences, but bear in mind that if that is the direction a lot of conversation with you goes, people will be turned off. For each negative story you relate, you should balance with about 7/8 stories which are positive or neutral. Otherwise, people will see you as a task or cross to bear instead of a peer/friend/lover/etc.
May I ask how old you both are? I don't attach any real significance to this; just curious.
It's hard to understand. If ANY person I cared for needed someone to be with them all night for whatever reason--let alone my SO in a hospital after two serious injuries(!)--then if humanly possible, I will be with that friend or family member or loved one all night that night, trying to be a help. This is just common sense, right?
The main thing I am thinking is: Don't worry about your relationship right now, just take care of yourself and get better. Head injuries are nothing to...something, something...
May I ask how old you both are? I don't attach any real significance to this; just curious.
It's hard to understand. If ANY person I cared for needed someone to be with them all night for whatever reason--let alone my SO in a hospital after two serious injuries(!)--then if humanly possible, I will be with that friend or family member or loved one all night that night, trying to be a help. This is just common sense, right?
The main thing I am thinking is: Don't worry about your relationship right now, just take care of yourself and get better. Head injuries are nothing to...something, something...
we are both 22, me older by 2 months. it is common sense. and you're Griffis. I should focus on myself.
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