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Don't reply at all, you have already decided to start playing games.
Six hours to reply, so what, you have no idea what he has been doing and the mere fact you are
snooping online to see if he is there are the actions of a 12 year old.
Leave the man alone so he can find a mature woman.
If I answered now it looks like I was waiting for his message all day. No thanks. I don't like games, but I also don't want him to think that he already 'has' me or that I'm desperate. I'll just wait til tomorrow morning and that's it.
In a relationship, I don't need constant affirmation because I know how a person feels about me. Now I really do not because I feel like he's hot&cold, so I'm going a bit crazy here. I'm trying to chill, I really do, but my thoughts keep going back there.
You aren't in a relationship yet, and unfortunately that uncertainty is part of the dating process.
You have to get used to it or get over it. But above all you have to keep living your life and focus on other things you have going on.
If I answered now it looks like I was waiting for his message all day. No thanks. I don't like games, but I also don't want him to think that he already 'has' me or that I'm desperate. I'll just wait til tomorrow morning and that's it.
LOL
So answering a reply = "desperate"?
I prefer to treat people the way I would want to be treated. If someone DMs me, I respond, regardless of how it "looks." It's also how you show them the type of interaction you want.
Do what you want, but realize that you are making yourself crazy.
If I answered now it looks like I was waiting for his message all day. No thanks. I don't like games, but I also don't want him to think that he already 'has' me or that I'm desperate. I'll just wait til tomorrow morning and that's it.
Okay, whatever you believe must be true.
bylpph.
PS ~~ You *were* waiting for his message all day or you would not know exactly how many hours had passed or how many times he was online........
If I answered now it looks like I was waiting for his message all day. No thanks. I don't like games, but I also don't want him to think that he already 'has' me or that I'm desperate. I'll just wait til tomorrow morning and that's it.
Sorry but whether you like it or not, it sounds like he already "has" you. :/
Just live your life like it was before him. If he wants to see you again, cool. If not, then whatevs. Don't bother asking him about it either. He will probably say something like "I've been busy" or "you haven't been responding either". Eh. You can't win so don't bother playing.
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No, I will answer, I said that I won't answer today. It's 11pm here and he took 6h to write one sentence while I saw him online at least 4 times (yes, I know, sometimes I cannot believe either that I'm 29 and not 16 haha) so I won't reply til tomorrow.
It's just.. I've never had this kind of experience without a guy eventually ghosting me. Every time a guy was interested he would message me a lot, plan to meet very soon etc etc..
There's nothing, and I mean nothing that turns a guy off more than a clingy, desperate "broad". And before the PC police gets on me with the broad remark, I used it specifically to explain someone who's doing what you're doing.
There's nothing, and I mean nothing that turns a guy off more than a clingy, desperate "broad". And before the PC police gets on me with the broad remark, I used it specifically to explain someone who's doing what you're doing.
Stop being desperate!
You don't get it.... yes, I'm probably what you think I am, but trust me, he doesn't. In fact, he initiated most conversations, he initiated the one after sex, I never immediately messaged him back, I was never pushy, never messaged him longer messages than he messaged me. I'm a 100% sure I don't look desperate to him.[/i]
Just live your life like it was before him. If he wants to see you again, cool. If not, then whatevs. Don't bother asking him about it either. He will probably say something like "I've been busy" or "you haven't been responding either". Eh. You can't win so don't bother playing.
That's very true, thanks. I'll try, it's just hard sometimes when you almost never like anyone and then you do like someone and this happens, haha.
Of course I was, but he doesnt have to know that Unfortunately that's pretty unattractive to a guy.
This is not a joking matter, you need to seek professional guidance to help you figure out why you are
29 years old behaving like a 12 year old who just saw the latest teen heartthrob on a city bus.
Also, playing games is more unattractive to a guy, snooping is right up there as well.
It appears you do not completely comprehend what you have been told so far in this thread so, carry on as you will since you have already shown you will not heed any advice given from anyone because it is
all one big joking game.
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