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Wanted to try it since I hadn't experienced in almost two decades. I was curious.
OP, you don't date someone just to try out dating. You don't do it just to go through the motions, so you can say you tried dating. You go out with them once or twice, and if you like them, and things seem to click, you go out with them again. If you're both enjoying each other's company, you decide to make it a regular thing. Otherwise, it's pointless. Also, if you turn it into a series of chores (flowers: check! Opening car door: check! Open restaurant door: check! ...), you're not going to enjoy it as much.
If you didn't enjoy it, you're either doing it wrong, or you just didn't hit it off with the humanoid you chose to try your dating experiment on.
OP, you don't date someone just to try out dating. You don't do it just to go through the motions, so you can say you tried dating. You go out with them once or twice, and if you like them, and things seem to click, you go out with them again. If you're both enjoying each other's company, you decide to make it a regular thing. Otherwise, it's pointless. Also, if you turn it into a series of chores (flowers: check! Opening car door: check! Open restaurant door: check! ...), you're not going to enjoy it as much.
If you didn't enjoy it, you're either doing it wrong, or you just didn't hit it off with the humanoid you chose to try your dating experiment on.
This is where some guys go wrong.....
Whats wrong with having the intention of forming a friendship first and having fun on a date, laughing etc.
Too many guys go through the motions for the hope of receiving "physical benefits".
Hey! Me too. Well no, I worked at a 'bikini bar' called Bourbon Street in my 20s. I won't be doing that again! Shiny gold and matching head band and heels.
Post pictures or it didn't happen.
I read threads like this and wonder about the survival of our species. It's like the million Japanese hikikomori who live in their bedroom in their parents house and never come out. Life is an LCD screen. You have to get out there and experience people.
You sound like a dude that needs someone equally as comfortable just being who they are and does care for the excessive courtship rituals
It's Not easy to find such people since they are much like you and just would rather keep to themselves most of the time.
I think the OP assumed the "excessive courtship rituals" were what his date wanted. Actually, he may have just fallen back on somewhat antiquated notions because he's been out of the loop for almost 20 years and they were outdated even then. So while that's what OPmight have been familiar with it's not likely his date appreciated it and since he obviously wasn't comfortable it's not surprising it wasn't a success.
Now, OP can take that as a sign he should never date again or realize that wasn't likely a typical experience and try to learn from it. Totally up to him depending on whether he wants a relationship.
I'm happily single and have been for a few years now. It's great you are comfortable with that, but your idea of dating seems weird to me. It's so much more than flowers and opening doors, and frankly, as a woman, those things never signified to me. Flowers are NICE, but not necessary all the time and certainly not in the early dating stages. And opening doors for people is just weird and awkward - holding the door when someone needs help getting through or is coming up behind you is just kindness and courtesy, but how strange and weird when a guy runs ahead to open it for me or pulls out a chair for me. It's weird and unnatural from my perspective - I've spent most of my life solo so when someone strives to take care of a function that is as basic to self-preservation as eating on your own or brushing your teeth, it seems ridiculous to me.
I don't think what you experienced was dating in the normal, modern sense of the word. There's no need for you to date if you prefer not to, but just have a clear-headed idea of what your opting out of. What you opted for was a very 1950s experience that seemed more like going through the motions than actually engaging in getting to know another person.
I went to New Year's Eve on Bourbon Street once, and believe me ... I am NEVER doing that again.
So I now how you feel, OP.
If the dates had gone like New Years eve on Bourbon St., I bet he'd keep dating
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